Adina Rivers, the founder of MyTinySecrets, talks about threesome sex, and gives us 6 tips on how to make the experience “unforgettable”. First off, she starts with how threesomes are like unicorns – unique and breathtaking, which can elevate your spirit. But, if not done correctly, it can pretty much ruin relationships.
So, are you interested in broadening your horizons and experimenting a little? Well, make sure you approach this with mindfulness and sensitivity. Note that a threesome can happen between all sorts of genders. The most important thing is to stay open. Making love to more than one person is prone to create a powerful sexual energy. And, sexual energy sparks life-force, productivity, and creativity.
1) The Right Mindset. For starters, figure out why you think you might want to have a threesome if you are already in a relationship. Get still, Adina suggests. Stillness has the power to bring out what’s true for yourself, and I could not agree more. If there are any unresolved issues in your relationship, chances are they will surface during a threesome. Make sure the bond with your partner is secure and you two are on the same wavelength before you dive into the unknown.
2) Prepare Your Partner. Start talking about your fantasies with your partner, and see how they react. Take it easy. You don’t have to go all the way in on your first attempt. You can start with simply making out with the said unicorn. Then, check in with your partner to see how they feel about it. If all is good and you are both genuinely enjoying the process, go ahead and get deeper with it.
If you are unsure whether you want to try it, though, ask yourself these questions:
a) can you do this or think about it when you’re not horny?
b) do both of you talk about having threesome sex or is it just one of you?
3) Find The Right Unicorn. When looking for a person to join you on your sexcapade, make sure you both are attracted to them, and they are attracted to both of you. They must be willing to do this with no strings attached. And, they should definitely be sane enough to not wreak havoc on your relationship. There’s no need to rush into anything, unless you are up for a roller-coaster ride.
4) Set Boundaries And Rules. Prior to embarking on this adventure, talk about what is on and off the table. Is kissing okay? Is intercourse okay? Talk with each other, and if there’s anything important, let the unicorn know as well. Stay true to yourself, and respect your partner’s and the unicorn’s feelings.
5) Safety First. Discuss sexual history and practice safe sex. Don’t ever feel embarrassed to ask what you need to know before engaging in a sex with someone. For the shy ones out there, you can use the app called “Healthvana”. It uses your lab tests to track your health, which you can share with others.
6) Be Present. This goes for all things in life. The more open and in the moment you are, the more you’ll enjoy the experience. The more present you are, the higher your sexual energy will be. Don’t overthink it and let it all flow naturally. Breathe. Breathe. And, again – breathe.
