Category: Sex

In this video, Tyomi Morgan demonstrates the best sex positions for achieving a squirting orgasm. These positions optimize stimulation of either the G-spot, A-spot and the U-spot. The G-spot, also known as the Grafenberg Spot that is located between 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the frontal wall – between the vaginal opening and the urethra.

The G-spot, also known as the Grafenberg Spot that is located between 2-3 inches inside the vagina on the frontal wall – between the vaginal opening and the urethra. The A-spot, or anterior vaginal fornix, is a ring of muscles that surrounds the cervix. The U-spot is a recently discovered sensitive area of tissue located on either side of the urethra. These “spots”, when stimulated correctly can lead to intensely powerful vaginal orgasms and pave the way for squirting orgasms.

Tyomi has some advice for the ladies: if you try these positions and don’t achieve a squirting orgasm, you are not relaxing and letting go. That slight feeling that you have to pee at the moment of orgasm? That is the feeling of a squirt wanting to be set free. Go to the bathroom before sex and completely empty your bladder. (Tyomi suggests this even if you are not attempting to achieve a squirting orgasm as it decreases the risk of contracting a UTI). You will be conscious during sex that you have an empty bladder. This will ensure when that moment arrives and the urge to pee sets in, you can confidently let go knowing you are not accidentally urinating.

Try out these positions, have some fun experimenting. Every woman is different. What works for one doesn’t work for all. The most important thing to remember is relaxation is key. You have to be able to fully let yourself go at the moment of orgasm to experience squirting. (Don’t forget to check out our step by step guide on how to make a girl squirt)

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Everyone knows how accessible porn is these days. Is it these factors that make it so problematic for some people they become “addicted”? Laci Green investigates the claim that porn is addictive like a substance.

The claim that pornography is addictive mostly comes from religious entities and anti-porn groups that promote an abstinence only lifestyle. However, there are other individuals that claim pornography has desensitized them to real life sexual experiences. They also say that the removal of porn from their lives has rectified all their sexual issues.

The logic behind the pornography-addiction argument is that the sheer amount of porn available and the instant accessibility of porn is over-stimulating in comparison to real life sexual experiences. A study conducted by the University of Cambridge suggests that over time your exposure to pornography can increase your tolerance to sexual stimuli, akin to the way the body adapts to alcohol and drug use. Some research suggests it actually rewires your brain in regards to arousal.

Pornography-induced erectile dysfunction is the result of frequent masturbation to pornographic material. This usually occurs at a young age. The introduction to sexual material in our society begins with very graphic and intense images that set the framework for future arousal.

Addiction is scientifically known as a need to use that is biologically driven. Pornography, however, doesn’t change the cell composition the way addiction to chemical substances does. Laci concludes that it is not healthy to refer to pornography as a drug because it frames normal, healthy, curious sexual behavior as abnormal and wrong.

So is the root of pornography “addiction” problem really the pornographic material? Laci believes the problem lies with repressed relationship issues or emotional difficulties that drive people to cope with whatever works and then overuse of “whatever works”.

Most people view pornography without issue. Other that may have underlying emotional problems or predisposition to “addictive” behavior may use porn as a problematic outlet. Good advice in regards to any activity: best enjoyed in moderation. Laci suggests that viewing or utilizing porn multiple times a day is entering unhealthy territory. An even better gauge is that if porn is causing negative consequences in your life it is becoming an unhealthy habit.

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Sex expert Helena has decided to finally publicly answer the most frequent question she receives as a sexual coach: How do I last longer in bed? As she explains, it’s all a matter of controlling sexual energy and mounting pressure.

As the body gets aroused and fills with sexual energy it introduces a lot of tension into the body that focuses itself in the pelvis. This concentration of energy, coupled with the constriction or cessation of our breathing creates a nucleus of tension in the genitals. The tension builds and builds until the body just can’t hold it anymore, causing premature ejaculation. Tantric experts consciously relax the body and pelvic area through deep breathing. Being relaxed doesn’t mean you are limp and uninvolved. You can be fully active and involved in your sexual experience while being deliberately relaxed.

Helena recommends controlled breathing. Expand the belly while inhaling and exhale fully and completely without leaving any spaces between breaths or holding the breath to create tension. Your breathing must flow without interruption. This relaxes the entire body, including the pelvic area. This bodily tranquility allows sexual energy to flow throughout the body away from the genitals which will decrease the urgency to ejaculate. As an added bonus, the wonderful feelings your genitals undergo will also flow throughout your body adding an extra element of pleasure to your sexual experience.

Tantra is an ancient meditative practice that is commonly thought of to be purely sexual in nature, but it actually serves many other purposes. Employing it sexually can increase the pleasurability of your experience as well as your longevity during intercourse.

In this video, Shan Boodram explains the 3 main reasons we as human beings have sex and the biological reactions that take place inside our bodies during sexual experiences.

So when should you have sex with someone? There is no magical number of dates you should wait for. Sexual activity should occur if both you and your potential partner have both mutual consent and intent, and your person intent should be communicated clearly. The example scenario shows a couple on a third date deciding to have sex. While they clearly had mutual consent, their intentions seemed to differ. And why is sexual intent important in relationships?

Reason #1 We Have Sex: Pleasure
During the stimulation of sexual tissue, adrenaline and endorphins are released causing increased blood flow and an almost opiate like high. After the resulting orgasm, dopamine, the body’s happy chemical is released.

Reason #2 We Have Sex: Connection
20 seconds of holding someone is all it takes for the body to start producing oxytocin, the cuddle hormone. Cuddling before sexual activity is a great way for people to create familiarity, emotional connections and trust within a relationship.

Reason #3 We Have Sex: Relaxation
Sexual relations trigger the production of serotonin which regulates your mood, prolactin which clears your mind and melotonin that makes you sleepy. What a perfect little happy hormone cocktail.

In the scenario storyline it was clear that the parties involved had different sexual intent. The female was looking for something more emotional while the male was in it for pleasure and relaxation. Engaging in sexual activity with someone will not coerce someone to love you or become bonded to you in the way you want them to be unless they also have that same intent. Shan believes that sex should remain an experience and not a means to a hypothetcal outcome.

Sex toys are not a new invention. Dating back as far as the 13th century, people were carving out goat eyelids for use as cock rings. They were (and actually still are) steamed and dried out to give them a soft feel. Nowadays there is a large variety of different cock ring materials to choose from in case you don’t feel like shoving your dick into an old leathered eyelid: rubber, nylon, neoprene, jade, wood, stone, beads; someone got super creative once and used liquorice laces.

So what is the purpose of a cock ring? Dr. Doe describes the effect a cock ring has on the penis as an “oomph”. Wrap an elastic band around the base of your finger and wait – it’s going to get really hard and swollen. Take the elastic off before you lose your finger and think of that reaction in terms of a penis. The more blood going into the penis and staying there, the harder and larger the erection will become. As the brain processes this extra stimulation, it dilates the arteries in the penis which further increases blood flow to the penis. The tissue the penis is composed of absorbs the blood and keeps it there.

Cock rings are meant to be placed on an erect or semi-erect penis to create pressure and hold an erection longer. There are many different kinds of cock rings – some are just for decoration and others come with cool features such as clit stimulators and built-in buttplugs. In Victorian times, which were prudish as fuck, a cock ring was designed with pointy metal spikes to stab an erect penis as punishment for getting excited. While those probably still exist in the BDSM world, most cock rings today are designed for comfort.

Here’s Dr. Doe’s Cock Ring Safety Checklist:
1. Nothing metal or rigid (like wood or hard plastic) to start out with
2. Ensure it’s easy to apply and remove
3. Take it for a short test drive and take it off – check your skin for any damage
4. Only wear cock rings for short intervals – about 20 min
5. If your erection lasts for more than 3 hours seek medical attention
6. If the ring won’t come off – that also requires a trip to the E.R

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She really does – and for good reason. In case you were wondering, the foreskin is a stretchy piece of skin that covers the head of the penis and its functionality is two-fold: protection and sex. When a baby boy is born, the foreskin is fused to the penis. By the age of 10, the foreskin will begin to detach (or may have already detached) and serves as a protective sleeve.

The foreskin is internally composed of mucous membranes that aid in maintaining natural lubrication and protects erotic nerve endings to prevent overexposure and desensitization. The foreskin contains 240 feet of nerve fiber and over 20,000 nerve endings. So if the foreskin has all these great uses and attributes, why does our society promote cutting it off? 8 out of every 10 Americans are circumcised. Worldwide the statistic is 3 out of 10 people.

Circumcision is the practice of cutting off the top half of a male’s foreskin and dates back 2400 BC. Many tribal cultures still use circumcision as a right of passage into manhood. A major reason the practice has survived into modern times is through religion, however, Laci sites 4 main arguments for the validity of modern circumcision:

1. It’s just cleaner that way! – Not true, says Laci. The foreskin isn’t inherently dirty and extremely easy to clean.

2. Circumcision protects against STD’s! – While research is divided on this claim, something that is less extreme than slicing off half of the skin on your penis is the use of condoms which provides 99% protection against disease.
3. Circumcised penises look nicer – There is nothing ugly about a natural penis.

4. His dad is circumcised so we got him done too – Some traditions don’t have to be continued!
Sometimes as circumcised men get older they begin to realize that infant circumcisions are not right and regret their parent’s decision to tamper with their body. Because it was done without consent it can feel like a violation. Laci recommends some healthy ways of dealing with these feelings.

What is the difference between a fantasy and a desire? Chris from Pleasure Mechanics has an answer: a fantasy lives in the domain of your imagination where anything and everything is possible, especially the improbable and impossible. Desires are what you actually want to experience more of in real life. Most of the time we don’t have trouble discerning the difference between real life and imagination. Humans are good at fantasizing, and fantasizing is good for humans. The act of fantasizing alone can cause full body pleasure stimulation.

Sometimes people can be troubled with moral issues due to their fantasies. They think that because they are dreaming about an intense sexual situation that they are perverted or sadistic. These kinds of fantasies are completely normal and have no bearing on who you are as a person. Once you begin to yearn for something in actuality it is no longer a fantasy.

Fantasies can sometimes make their way into the realm of desire, and that’s ok. There is still a difference between fantasy and real life. Your fantasy might include being kidnapped and tied up while in real life you are just desiring rougher sex. The capacity to identify your desires and distinguish them from your imagination is a powerful thing.

Identify your fantasies. Identify your desires. Understand the difference between the two and communicate them with your partner.

Tracey Cox is a former Cosmopolitan magazine editor turned relationship and sex expert. In this video, she answers several commonly asked sex questions.

According to a recent survey, one-third of women and two-thirds of men are not satisfied with their sex lives. Tracey explains that usually what people mean when they say they aren’t satisfied with their sex lives is the quantity of sex. Men and women have the same libidos, but there are many reasons why women tend to want sex less than men. Women tend to stretch themselves too far, involve themselves in too many activities and therefore have less energy. Another reason is the likelihood of an orgasm isn’t grounds for motivation. While almost all men orgasm every time they have sex with their partner, only 30% of women orgasm every time. Women tend to need an emotional connection before engaging in sexual activities while men prefer to have their sexual needs met before seeking an emotional connection.

50% of both men and women are concerned that their partners are not satisfied with their sex lives. Tracey blames television and media where sex in committed relationships is portrayed inaccurately causing people to question the voraciousness of their own sex life.

50% of men and women would like to be more adventurous in bed. 1 in 4 women would like to act out a fantasy in the bedroom but 60% haven’t told their partner the details of their fantasies. Tracey believes that fantasies are sometimes best kept to yourself as they can be confused with real desire. Saying “I want to..” in regards to experimenting sexually instead of “I have been fantasizing about..” can save your relationship undue distress.

44% of women and 22% of men say that body confidence affects their sex lives. Tracey is surprised the women’s statistic isn’t higher due to the societal pressures from the media but also surprised that the men’s statistic is so high. There was a time that a man would not have refused sex due to body issues which just shows how intense societal pressure has become.

80% of women admit that they never instigate sex with their partner. Tracey explains how this can be detrimental to your relationship. The one who is always asking for sex can end up feeling like they are harassing or pressuring their partner and the partner can begin to feel harassed or pressured resulting in neither feeling sexy or in the mood.

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In this video, Shan Boodram interviews lesbian couple Amber and Kiarra to answer some common questions and convey some sexual wisdom.

The most common inquiry into Amber and Kiarra’s sex life as lesbians is, “How does it work?”. Lesbian sex is not some magical ceremony. Tiny fairies do not light the room with twinkling lights, mermaids do not serenade them with their siren song and a unicorn is not seen braying majestically and galloping into the sunset. That would be fucking awesome, but alas. Amber describes lesbian sex as completed foreplay. So for heterosexual partners, this would consist of common foreplay activities completed through to orgasm instead of eventually leading to penetration.

Something that surprises Amber and Kiarra is hetero women’s acceptance of not orgasming every time they have sex with a guy. In a lesbian relationship that just. does. not. happen. Psst: that’s the whole point of sex – get you some.

If you were ever curious about terms used in lesbian relationships, wonder no more. A “stud” is a more masculine looking lesbian. A “fem” is a feminine looking lesbian. Put those together and you get a “stem”, a combination of both feminine and masculine traits. Kiarra adds “pillow princess” to the list. You are a pillow princess if you lay there and receive pleasure rather than give it. And finally, “gold star lesbians”, which are women who have only ever been with women.

Amber has some advice for the guys, and it is simple: CLIT CLIT CLIT. Go down. Always. Lots. More. Do it. Keep motion consistent for best results.

Kiarra is here to impart some wisdom to her fellow lesbian women: Aggression is sexy. Try to find a little bit of boldness in the bedroom and take control. Also, don’t be intimidated if your partner is into penetration. That has nothing to do with being straight or gay, that has to do with having a vagina that likes to be penetrated.

For those of you with sexual curiosities, Amber says let go fo that fear and just go for it. You’ll never know until you try.

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So how effective is pulling out, really? Laci Green breaks it down statistically.

For couples that use the pull-out method accurately every single time they have sex, 4 out of 100 couples become impregnated. So the pull-out method has the potential to be almost 96% effective as a form of birth control. REALITY CHECK: the pull-out method’s actual success rate is 73%. That means that 1 out of every 4 couples that use the pull-out method will get pregnant.

The issue is that if used correctly, the pull-out method can be reasonably effective, but the majority of people are not committing to this execution 100% of the time.

The first mistake that people make is mishandling the pre-ejaculate or “pre-cum”. Pre-cum is fluid excreted from the Cowper’s gland that is used by the body to neutralize the urethra to ensure sperm survival and lubrication for smooth spermy sailing. Pre-cum does not naturally contain any actual sperm, but it can acquire sperm leftover from previous ejaculations as it travels through the urethra. Laci recommends peeing before sex to help clear the urethra of rogue sperm.

The second mistake is timing. It actually takes a lot of experience and self-control to pull-out at the moment of orgasm. It sounds like a simple concept but some can get caught up in the ecstasy at the last second and.. oops.

The third mistake is ejaculating on the outside of the vagina. Ejaculation near or on the vulva can still get your partner pregnant. Sperm are in it to win it and will find a way to get where they need to go.

Laci recommends the pull-out method for committed, monogamous couples who have been mutually tested for STI’s and have a lot of trust in each other. She does not recommend the pull-out method for new couples, those who are sexually inexperienced or those who have not been tested for STI’s.

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