Category: Sex Education

Sex Smells: Pheromones at Work

As humans, we spend a lot of time covering up our natural smells. We shower with scented soap, put on deodorant, wear perfume and cologne, and use scented lotion. We spend all that time covering them up, but natural smells are important. They communicate things to other people.
 
In some parts of Europe, women will put vaginal fluid behind their ears to arouse their partners. And guess what? It works! This is due to a type of hormone called a pheromone. Hormones communicate within the body and tell the body when to do certain functions. Pheromones communicate information outside the body between different bodies. Human pheromones can communicate information such as sexuality and level of fertility.
 
There are many studies that try to confirm or debase pheromones communicative abilities. There is a theory that women who live in close proximity to each other will experience synchronized cycles due to pheromone communication. A study showed that when one female’s sweat was applied to another female’s lip, that female was more likely to synchronize cycles with the owner of the sweat.
 
Pheromones can even communicate political compatibility. Researchers gathered a group of liberals and conservatives. Each participant was to wear a gauze pad in their under arm and collect their sweat for 24 hours. None of the participants were to wear any scented products during this period. The group was then individually asked to smell each gauze pad and rank the smells in terms of attractiveness. The results showed that liberals preferred the pads of other liberals and vice versa.
 
We are attracted to the smells of compatible mates. We are able to detect both similarities and differences. In the animal kingdom as well as in humans, our bodies tell us who to mate with and who to stay away from. For example, they tell us to steer clear of siblings and close relatives and drive you towards partners who are genetically different than you.
 
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6 Holistic Penis Enlargement Tips

For most men, their penis is one of the most important things in their life. Adina has received many emails from men asking her how to enlarge their manhood. Because of these emails, Adina has put together 6 holistic tips for penis enlargement.
 
She prefaces these tips with some thoughts about penis size. A large penis is not an indicator of an amazing lover. It is much more important for a woman to be comfortable during sex. The angle at which you have to look at your own penis makes it seem smaller than it actually is. Porn has a negative impact on male confidence and self-esteem. Many men think a big penis means great sex. This is due to the majority of the population lacking a proper sexual education.
 
Adina’s first holistic growth tip involves growing the confidence of your penis. Subconsciously, women want to be with confident men. Being with a confident man will make her feel safe. The safer she feels, the more she will be able to relax. This will make your sexual experience together magic.
 
The second holistic growth tip is to grow your penis through personal growth. Sex is not only about penises and vaginas. You have sex with a whole person; body, mind, and soul. The deeper and wiser your whole persona becomes, the bigger energy-wise your penis will become. Her third tip is to grow your sexual experience. Get to know more about your sexuality and that of your partner. Learn about the male and female bodies. The more you know, the bigger your penis will metaphorically be.
 
Grow the stamina of your penis. Adina recommends putting this on the top of your priority list. The lasting power of your penis is much more important to a woman than the size. Tip number five – grow the consciousness of your penis. It is important for a woman to be with a man who honors her. A woman needs someone who looks at her with stars in his eyes. Your partner will not even think about penis size if she feels you are present and competent.
 
The final tip is to grow your penis by finding the right conscious partner. In the words of Frida Kahlo, “take a lover that looks at you like maybe you are magic”. Great sex is not achieved by having a big penis or a tight vagina. Great sex is created through open-heartedness, positive energy and effective communication.
 
Yes – Adina realizes these are not the tips you thought you were going to hear. But, these are the tips that you needed to hear.

Magical Multiple Orgasms

Multiple orgasms are usually seen as a perk of being female. Males can also indulge in this experience. It’s important to know the difference between an orgasm and an ejaculation. Most people think of these two things happening at the same time. Laci says to think of the orgasm as the “party” and the ejaculation as the “confetti”. The secret to multiple orgasms is separating the two.
 
The time it takes a man to be able to ejaculate again is the refractory period. During this period, arousal decreases and the genitals return back to normal. This period comes with euphoria and sleepiness. When you are younger this period is shorter and as you age it gets longer. The key to male multiple orgasms is to avoid this period altogether.
 
So how you do orgasm without ejaculating? Edging is the practice of getting to the point of almost orgasming and then stopping. When you feel like you are almost about to cum, stop all stimulation and let the feeling fade. Get in tune with your body and pinpoint the exact moment you orgasm. Learn self-control and be able to stop yourself from going too far.
 
The best way to aid your self-control is to strengthen your PC muscles. These muscles line the floor of your pelvic cavity and are the ones you use to push out and stop streams of pee. To strengthen these muscles, clench them for 1-2 seconds. Do 3 sets of 20 every day to keep them strong. You will be able to get to the edge of orgasm, clench these muscles and experience an orgasm without ejaculating. Once you have mastered this, you can do it as many times as you want.

Erectile Dysfunction

The condition of the penis where it fails to become erect is known as erectile dysfunction. While this happens naturally in more elderly men, it can also happen to younger men. This causes grief because it affects sexual experiences.
 
There are three main causes of erectile dysfunction. First of all, the blood vessels leading to the penis can become blocked reducing blood flow. The less blood flowing to the penis, the more likely it is that you will have erectile difficulties. The nervous system communicates nerve impulses from all over the body to the brain. If this system encounters an interference in the genitals, erectile difficulties can occur. Another reason for erectile dysfunction is a decrease in libido or sexual desire.
 
There are several diseases that can be behind the causes of erectile dysfunction. Diabetes, hypertension, MS, atherosclerosis, nerve damage and hormonal imbalances can all cause erectile dysfunction. You are more likely to experience erectile issues at a young age if you are overweight, a smoker, drink alcohol or use drugs. Antihypertensives, antidepressants, antipsychotics, tranquilizers all list erectile dysfunction as a side-effect. Stress, fear, sadness, depression, and relationship issues can all affect your ability to maintain an erection.
 
The most highly recommended treatment for erectile issues is lifestyle modification. Quit smoking, limit alcohol intake, lose weight, and don’t engage in substance abuse. If you believe your issues stem from a medication you are taking, talk to your doctor about reducing the dose or changing medications. If stress and anxiety are the root cause, therapy or counseling is recommended. Medications can be prescribed in extreme circumstances.

6 Important Facts about Period Sex

Period Sex: yes, it’s a thing! Put the pain and mess of a woman’s period together with the vim and vigor of sex and you get period sex. Here are 6 facts about period sex you need to know before doing the deed.
 
1. There will be blood
There will not suddenly be a pool of blood you’re having sex in. The blood will only be as heavy as her flow. If you’re having sex on a light flow day, there may not be any blood at all. On heavier days, putting a towel down will prevent messes.
 
2. Your partner can still go down on you
For most women, it’s a lot easier to orgasm via hand or mouth play than penetrative sex. But, of course, she is bleeding down there. A lot of people aren’t comfortable with it, but if you are, keep a towel handy or do it in the shower. You can also use a dam to prevent mess.
 
3. Don’t wear a tampon
Okay, so the tampon goes in the same hole as the penis. Wearing a tampon will either block entry or get pushed too far into the vagina. This can cause painful and difficult removal.
 
4. It can cure cramps!
It can be the last thing on someone’s mind when they are in cramp agony, but it works! Exercise helps with cramps. Sex is a form of exercise and thus helps with muscle contractions.
 
5. You can still get pregnant.
Yes, a woman can still get pregnant while on her period. It’s less likely, but completely possible. Sperm can live inside the vagina for 5-7 days after ejaculation, and they are on a mission. So after the completion of the period, those little buggers can still swim their way towards the egg. If you want to stay baby-free, protect yourself from disease and keep your junk clean, wear a condom.
 
6. Period sex is only gross if you say so.
Even if you’re okay with period sex, your partner may think otherwise. Some may not understand the biology of whats going on down there. For others, it may be the sight of blood that turns them off. Clear, effective communication with your partner is the solution.

Gender and Sexuality Explained

There are many types of sexuality. Heterosexuals are attracted to the opposite sex. Homosexuals are attracted to the same sex. Bisexuals are attracted both the opposite and the same sex. There is a wide range of sexualities that a lot of people are not
 
Pansexuals are attracted to all gender and sexual identities. Asexuals don’t feel attracted to anyone but can feel romantic attraction. Romantic attraction does not involve sex. It is the feeling of wanting a close relationship. There are several types of romantic attraction: hetero, homo, bi, pan, and a-romantic.
 
There is more to gender identity than male and female. Being cisgender means identifying as the sex you are born as. Intersex is when a person is born with both male and female sexual organs. These people can choose what gender they want to identify as, or they can identify as neither. When someone identifies as neither male or female, they are non-binary.
 
Those who identify as a different gender than their biological gender are transsexual. Transsexuals have changed their looks and genitalia. Transgendered people have changed their looks only. Neither of these are drag, which is a performance art.
 
If you are not sure how a person identifies, the best thing to do is ask. It’s important to use gender correct pronouns, so if you aren’t sure, use “they” or “them”. If you are having issues figuring out your sexual identity, that’s okay. Find the right support system to aid you through your confusion.
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Male Pleasure How-To

We’ve gone over the basics of female satisfaction, now Laci is back with a simple how-to on male pleasure.

As usual, let’s begin with anatomy. There is a high concentration of nerve endings in the head, or glans, of the penis. Due to unrealistic expectations created by the porn industry, some seem to think you need to shove a penis halfway down your throat to give good head. There are two spots on the head that you need to concern yourself with: the corona and the frenulum. The corona is the raised ridge around the base of the head and the frenulum is a small patch of skin directly under the tip of the head.

If the penis you are dealing with is intact (not circumcised) these parts will be covered in foreskin. The foreskin is a huge pleasure center with about 20,000 nerve endings. Pulling the foreskin down over the head of the penis will produce a very pleasurable sensation. Circumcised penises will be slightly desensitized due to nerve damage caused by the circumcision, which some see as a good thing (lasting longer in bed).

I know what you’re thinking – what about the balls? You probably know that they are a very sensitive body part that should be handled with care. You can lick them, suck them, rub them, use a vibrator on them – all with your partner’s permission of course – to produce pleasurable sensations. Then there is this little patch of skin underneath the balls, just before the anus, called the perineum which is sensitive to pressure and lubricated touch.

Speaking of the anus, that area is filled with pleasure receptors as well! The anus itself has a lot of nerve endings, but inside the anus is the lovely little gland called the prostate. The prostate is involved in producing semen and considered to be the male G-spot. It’s located at the very base of the penis and accessed through the anus. It swells during arousal and can be stimulated with a penis, fingers or toys provided they have a flared based. According to those who have experienced them, prostate orgasms are out of this world.

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The Mystery of the Female Orgasm

Some people just can’t figure this stuff out – so here are some tips on how to help her reach the female orgasm.

First of all, good vibes outside the bedroom equal good vibes inside the bedroom. If there is any stress or conflict in your relationship, that stuff is going to affect her ability to fully relax during sex. Communication is the hottest form of foreplay, use it regularly.

Take your time! Laci recommends paying attention to the entire body (nipples, back, thighs, neck) with a variety of sensations (touching, kissing, oral). Don’t think of everything that comes before penetrative sex as foreplay. Think of the whole experience as sex and be engaged in every part of it.

This is a given, but get to know the female anatomy! There’s this thing called the clit and it’s kind of a big deal. You can access it externally – it looks like a little button and it located at the top of the vagina.  You can also access it internally via the G-spot – 2 inches inside the vagina and push upwards with a “come here” motion. Don’t immediately go for this area though – slow it down and she will be more aroused by the time you get there.

Two words: Gentle and Lubricated. The external clitoris is extremely sensitive. So sensitive that you can actually hurt it if you work it too hard. Make sure you use a lubricant or saliva and use gentle motions (unless your partner tells you otherwise).

To reiterate, communication is key. Ask her what she likes; what feels good. Try some different sensations out and get her to rate them on a pleasure scale from 1 – 10. Keep the conversation going outside the bedroom about what worked, fantasies and what else you’d like to try together.

In porn what you will see a lot of the time is when the female is approaching orgasm, her male partner will speed up whatever action he is doing. This might work for some people, but for the majority, steady and consistent motion is required to achieve orgasm.

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Ask a Polyamorous Person – Your Questions About Polyamory Answered

Curious about what it’s like to be polyamorous? Here are some common questions asked about polyamory answered by actual polyamorous people!

#1. Why isn’t one person enough?
To polyamorous people, having multiple romantic partners is like having multiple friends. It’s not that one person isn’t enough – it’s that there are many interesting and attractive people out there.

#2. What’s the difference between cheating and polyamory?
Polyamory is all about respecting your partner. Everything is consensual, everything is out in the open. It’s not about betraying your partner – cheating is a violation of your relationship.

#3. Are you polyamorous due to your religion?
No – that’s polygamy you’re thinking of!

#4. Does it bother you that people don’t know the difference between polyamory and polygamy?
Yes! Polygamy is a legal term for marrying multiple partners and is often linked to religion. It’s also usually about one man and his submissive, compliant women. With polyamory, everyone is equal and gets a say.

#5. What’s the best tool for making polyamory work?
Communication and honesty. Talk ab0ut what you’re thinking and how you’re feeling. Go forward with love and compassion.

#6. Is non-monogamy normal?
Why isn’t the question is monogamy normal? As one person so astutely pointed out, “You can choose to be monogamous just like you can choose to be vegetarian, but that doesn’t mean the bacon won’t smell good”. It’s okay to be polyamorous as long as you do it honestly and ethically.

#7. How do you deal with jealousy?
Everyone deals with jealousy. Sexual jealousy is not some unconquerable issue. Meet your partner’s potential partners so that you don’t blow things out of proportion in your head.

#8. Does it bother you when people just don’t understand?
It’s best not to dwell on what others think.

#9. Do you have any advice for young polyamorous people?
Be absolutely honest no matter what. Don’t pretend you’re cool with things that you aren’t cool with just because your partner is. Reach out to different resources, do your research and get educated. Don’t assume you’ve got everything right. Figure out who you are and stick with it – don’t try to change yourself or anyone else.

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Pre-Cum 101 with Shan Boody – What, Where, Why?

Ever wonder why every reliable form of birth-control method is only 97%-99% effective? It’s all about those rascally devils we call sperm. When men ejaculate, they release between 40 million – 1.2 billion sperm, and each of these sperms has one mission. That’s a lot of soldiers and we just don’t have an army sufficient enough to stop them. Shan compares sperm to sand – that sh*t gets everywhere. They can also live inside the vaginal canal or male urethra for 5-7 days. Though it’s hard to be 100% safe, you can increase your safety.
 
As Shan explains, urine is very acidic, and as it passes through the urethra it makes the urethra a very acidic environment. Sperm and acid do not mix. When a man is aroused, the body produces an jelly-like substance to neutralize the urethra. Some produce enough of this substance for it to present itself at the tip of the penis, others do not. This substance does not contain any sperm itself. When it is flushed through the urethra it can pick up sperm left over from previous ejaculations.
 
Shan has some advice for you if you’re using the pull-out method. Urinate before sex to flush out any sperm that might be hanging out in the urethra. Urinate after sex for the same purpose. The pull-out method should always be used in tandem with another form of birth-control. The pull-out method provides absolutely no protection against STD’s. If you use the pull-out method, make sure you discuss the possibility of pregnancy.

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