In this series of videos, Sunny Megatron, a expert sexpert from California Exotic Novelties will explain nipple clamps: How to apply them, what body parts they can be used for, safety precautions, how to use them when you are along or with a partner.
Nipple clamps are not just for BDSM or kinky painful sex. They can be, if that is what you’re into. But they can also be used in aid of sensual eroticism. Sunny recommends the First Time Fetish Nipple Teaser nipple clamps. They are classic bullnose style clamps with soft, plastic-covered ends. They open and close just like tweezers. They are completely adjustable to suit your comfort level. Loosening the screw at the base prevents the clamps from closing all the way which means they won’t squeeze as hard.
Sunny recommends trying them on and then adjusting them while they are on your body. To apply the nipple clamps, the nipple must first be erect. Then, gently pinch the areola to isolate the nipple. Close the clamp towards the back of the nipple. If you clamp the nipple too far to the edge it can get really painful. If you have an inverted nipple or nipple piercing, pinch even more of the areola and close the clamp as far back as possible. The further back the clamp goes, the less painful it will be.
In How To Use Nipple Clamps: Part 2, Sunny goes over nipple clamp safety precautions, specific actions you can do with nipple clamps and how to use them both when alone and with a partner.
The Kama Sutra is one of the oldest books ever written. About 20% of the book is made up of detailed sexual information. The rest talks about love and relationships in general. The part about sex has a lot of interesting and helpful ideas about to make sex more exciting. It depicts sex as something magical that crosses over from the physical into the spiritual realm. Kama Sutra fuses yoga-like positioning and sex into one act.
The Bridge
The male partner arches his back into a bridge like position.
The female partner straddles him facing forwards.
This position is optimal for cervix stimulation and deep penetration.
The Inseparable
The male partner is seated with his legs fully extended in front of him.
The female partner rides him in reverse as he holds her at the shoulders.
This position is optimal for G-spot stimulation and sensual movement.
The Take Off
The male partner is standing.
He suspends the female partner at hip height.
She is facing away from him and locks her legs around him.
This position is optimal for unusual stimulation and full body activation.
The Throne
The male partner lies flat, then curls his body upwards until his legs are suspended above his head.
The female partner places herself on top and faces away from him.
This position is optimal for crown stimulation and sexual flexibility.
The Lounge Chair
The female partner lies on her back and lifts the body until everything but her shoulders and head are touching the floor.
She bends her knees and rests her feet on his chest.
The male partner supports her at the thigh.
This position is optimal for G-spot stimulation and sensual grip.
The Clock
The female partner lies on her back. She lifts the legs and spreads them like the hands of a clock.
The male partner supports her at the knee.
This position is optimal for sensual relaxation and deep stimulation.
The Eye-Gaze
Both partners are seated on their knees with their feet tucked beneath them.
They hold hands and make prolonged eye contact.
This position is optimal for building deep connections and trust
The Yabyum
The male partner is seated with his legs crossed.
The female partner straddles him and locks her legs around him.
She arches backward and places her hands on the floor for support.
This position is optimal for deep connection and soul sex.
These positions can be a bit tricky but they each have a different vibe for a different kind of love-making session.
Can you get pregnant or get someone else pregnant via anal sex?
The short answer: Yes.
Here are three ways this is possible:
Sperm swims from the anus to the vagina.
There is a hole in the tissue separating the vagina and the rectum.
The rectum is directly connected to the uterus.
Pregnancy traditionally occurs when a penis inserted into the vagina ejaculates sperm there. The egg makes the journey to the egg, which is comparable to you running a marathon. Some sperm, however, are training for the Iron Man. There have been cases of sperm ejaculated onto a person’s underwear or inner thigh has led to a pregnancy. Sperm has been known to swim from the vulva or vaginal opening and into the vaginal canal. They can even swim from the perineum into the vaginal canal. It is unlikely, however, that sperm could swim up and out of the anus, across the perineum and into the vagina. What is more likely is that sperm ejaculated into the anus comes back out and is moved closer to the vulva where it can make its way into the vagina.
Some people are born with direct pathways from the vaginal canal to the rectum. These are called fistulas and there are 2 different types. Recto-vesicular fistulas, wherein the hole is closer to the vaginal opening, and recto-vaginal fistulas, wherein the hole is anywhere along the vaginal canal. You can be born with these fistulas or they can be developed from an injury to the area. Childbirth, Krohn’s disease, cancer and cancer radiation treatment can all injure the area and create fistulas. It is not a likely route to pregnancy, but it is possible.
Birds expel waste from a single hole called the cloaca. This hole is also used for procreation. In comparison, women have 3 separate holes – the urethra for urine, the anus for fecal matter and the vagina for procreation. In some women, these holes fuse together forming a cloaca. In medical terms, it is called a persistent cloaca or anorectal malformation. Upon diagnosis, surgery is performed to separate the cloaca back into the 3 separate passages. There was a case of a woman who had the surgery performed when she was a child. The surgery either wasn’t successful or as she grew the trauma from the surgery created a direct passageway from her rectum to the uterus. She increased her likelihood of getting pregnant by having anal sex and did become pregnant this way.
If you are not wanting a pregnancy to occur, use protection no matter what is being penetrated.
What’s the difference between a kink, a fetish, and a paraphilia?
A kink is something you are interested in. You try it out every once in a while and have fun with it. A kink is not something you desperately need. It’s not necessary in order to achieve sexual satisfaction.
A fetish is an extreme fondness for something – a certain situation, an object, a certain body part. The difference between a kink and a fetish is that a sexual fetish presents itself as a need. Whatever the fetish is directed toward is necessary for sexual satisfaction.
Paraphilia used to be the term used by experts to describe sexual disorders involving compulsive fondness for something atypical, like a victim. The term now used is paraphilic disorders. Paraphilia has been redefined to mean something closer to fetish.
So what defines a fetish as disordered? Typically fetishes involving self-harm or non-consenting victims are considered to be paraphilic disorders. They cause social distress and impair daily functioning.
Never diagnose yourself. If you think you might have a paraphilic disorder, seek professional help. There are psychiatrists who specialize in sexual disorders.
So if you are really into breasts, does that mean you have a breast fetish? As earlier defined, a fetish is necessary for sexual satisfaction. If you are attracted to breasts but don’t need them to achieve an orgasm, it is not a fetish. If you are extremely attracted to a certain size of breasts, a certain shape of breasts, or type of nipple, and require them for sexual gratification – that is when it has become a fetish.
Many people have fetishes that they have been successfully able to integrate into their lives. As long as your fetish doesn’t involve anything illegal, it’s ok! The sooner you accept it, the sooner you can find someone that loves and accepts you for it. It is important for everyone to enjoy healthy sex lives.
The moaning sounds we make during sex are created by air passing through the larynx. The more forceful the exhale, the louder the moan. Moaning sounds can be influenced by hormones, genetics, personal health and your mood. So why do we do moan?
Sometimes it’s involuntary. Moaning is the body’s natural response to something that feels really, really good. Other times, we moan during sex to show off. Some like to let the neighbors know that they are having headboard rattling sex. During sex, some people like to let their partner know how much physical exertion they are putting into what they are doing.
A study showed that when tennis players grunted while hitting a ball, they weren’t working any harder than when they didn’t grunt. They did, however, perform better. Apply the same principle to sex! Adding a noise without adding any work increases performance.
Sometimes moaning signals satisfaction. It lets your partner know what you like and don’t like. It assures them that they know what they are doing and acts as a thank-you. Moaning can also be used as manipulation. One study concluded that 2/3 of women surveyed said they use moaning to help their partner climax faster. Moaning increases arousal and speeds up orgasms.
Another reason we moan during sex is to add the sense of sound. Sex is better when all senses are stimulated. The final reason is that it is a perceived expectation. We think we have to moan during sex so we do. The media portrays sex on TV and in movies with moaning noises. We are taught that it is sexy to moan a lot and that the best sex is loud sex.
Sexual contact is divided into 4 parts: Excitement, Plateau, Orgasm, and Resolution. This video focuses on the first two, Excitement and Plateau, and what happens to a woman when she is horny.
The Excitement phase begins with a woman seeing something arousing or someone she finds attractive. The pupils will dilate, her heart rate will increase. Her cheeks will blush and her lips will gently swell. This phase decreases the cognitive process, which is the reason women in this phase may not act like themselves.
Most women experience the excitement phase a few times a day without anything sexual actually happening. When a woman actually engages with another person or perhaps herself, she enters the plateau phase. During this phase, the glands in and around the vagina begin releasing lubricating fluid. The nipples will become erect. The vaginal canal lengthens, some up to 8 inches and the muscles in the vaginal wall relax.
Women have both erectile tissue and foreskin, most commonly known as the clitoris. During the plateau phase the clitoral hood, or female foreskin, retracts to reveal an enlarged clitoris. Unlike the male erection, this can take up to 20 minutes. This is why it is important to take your time and focus on some foreplay.
This is why it is important to take your time and focus on some foreplay. When women are not properly aroused when penetration occurs, sex becomes uncomfortable and sometimes painful. When sex becomes painful, it is no longer desired. Make your woman desire you and don’t skip the foreplay!
Fantasies are completely universal, transcending culture. Here are 10 things you need to know about the fantasy phenomenon.
1. Fantasizing can improve your sex life.
People who suffer from things like sex aversion and those who have difficulty with arousal find fantasizing helpful. This works for those who do not have sexual disorders as well. Thinking sexy thoughts makes everything so much sexier.
2. Generally, men and woman fantasize differently.
Men fantasize about things they hear, see and read; body parts and sexual acts. Men tend to focus on the physical in their fantasies and stray away from the emotional. They fantasize about multiple partners, anonymous partners and a variety of partners. The number of fantasy partners averages to about 1000 within a man’s lifetime.
3. Rape fantasies do not make you a rapist.
Fantasies about being raped or raping someone else are very common. At least half of us will fantasize about rape at some point in our lives.
4. What you fantasize about is not necessarily what you want in real life.
Fantasizing about rape does not mean you want to be raped or rape someone in real life. Fantasizing about being with other people does not mean you want to sleep with them. Not everything in fantasy-land makes the transfer to reality.
5. How to share your fantasies
Create a will/want/won’t board – things you will do, want to do and definitely won’t do – and have your partner(s) do the same. Compare these lists without any judgment.
6. Disgusting, impractical, taboo, dangerous or illegal stuff is probably ok in your fantasy land!
For example, sex while driving is unsafe for all involved while on the road. But masturbating to the thought of this sex act is okay! This is why fantasizing is so important. You can go anywhere and do anything as long as you can easily go back to reality.
7. Fantasizing can be harmful.
If you are having trouble getting back to reality after fantasizing, it is becoming unhealthy. Fantasizing incessantly can cause erectile dysfunction, relationship problems, and a drug-like dependency. Increased frequency and extremity of imagery needed to create the same arousal as the first time is a sign that you need professional help.
8. Fantasies also provide a positive escape from reality.
If you are feeling unsexy after a hard day of work, try fantasizing. Maybe about the best sex you have ever had. Your brain will communicate this as actual horny-ness and you will become aroused.
9. Fantasies can serve as test runs.
For example, if you want to try having a threesome – you can fantasize about it, rehearse it in your head as many time as you want and if you encounter any problems you can work through them before anything even happens in real life!
10. Fantasy can lead to orgasm.
People who aren’t sure how to make themselves orgasm find fantasizing helpful. This is because of all the aforementioned fantasy facts. For those who already orgasmic, fantasizing can make orgasms even better.
Bonus: Did you know some people can orgasm just from fantasy alone? No touching required!
We all have gone through a period of our life when we didn’t know what sex was. The group of guys you will see in the video have some hilarious memories about their youth and sex misconceptions. Follow along and reminisce!
What did you think a vagina was?
This is a tricky one. If you don’t have one, how’s a kid supposed to know? In the mind of one man, he thought women had one hole. That one hole then separated into the poop hole, pee hole and baby hole inside them. One guy thought the vagina hole would look flat like a belly button, only further down. To the surprise of another, women didn’t have penises. He thought the word vagina was a name for the female penis.
What did you think sex was?
Before we are old enough to fully understand what sex is, it’s completely up to our imagination. The consensus was that it definitely had something to do with the penis and the vagina. The logistics after that get a little fuzzy. One man knew there was a hole that penises went inside. Where that hole was or what happened next were a mystery. Another thought that you rubbed your penis on the outside of the vagina, no concept of “inside”. As a pre-pubescent youth, one man thought missionary was for baby-making. Doggy-style was for very bad people.
Oh, that glorious day you first discovered recorded sex! One man was innocently looking for a blank tape to record a TV show on. When he popped it in to check if it was blank, he got a very close shot of a vagina. Another discovered internet porn, which is mother discovered shortly after. She was not impressed.
The talk. You know the one. Yep, that talk. It can be super awkward for parent and kids alike. But, it’s important for kids to grow up sexually healthy, and that includes a good sexual education. These men, however, did not receive that. One man’s parents decided if they didn’t talk to him about sex, he would never have it. Another man’s mother told him if he ever did have sex his penis would get cancer. What?! One unfortunate soul got a personal sexual history lesson from his father.
How can you tell if your partner is faking orgasms? And why would she do such a thing in the first place? Most women cannot orgasm from penetration alone. In fact, 75-80% of women need clitoral stimulation to reach climax. Let’s discuss how to tell if she is faking an orgasm while she is with you.
Climaxing simultaneously
If you are somehow reaching climax the same time as your partner every time you have sex, there is a good chance she is faking it. She may be “timing” her performance to match yours.
Extra loud performances
If what she is doing very similarly resembles what you have seen in porn, she might be faking it. A real orgasm is not usually as loud and vocal.
Feeling her vaginal muscles contract
If you are inside her during “climax” you should be able to feel her muscles contract around your penis during an orgasm.
Why would a woman fake an orgasm? There are several reasons.
To not hurt your pride
She knows that giving her an orgasm is important to you. She wants to make you feel good about your sexual prowess.
She wants to speed up your climax
She knows it gets you off seeing her pleasured. She knows for whatever reason she isn’t going to orgasm so she fakes it to help you along.
She wants you to think she is exciting in bed
She doesn’t want you walking away from a sexual experience thinking she’s not good in bed.
She has not yet figured out what works for her
Some women have not yet figured themselves out. She doesn’t know what she likes yet and may be shy communicating that to you. She fakes it so as to not feel awkward.
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