In this video, Liz answers a letter from “Janie”. She writes that her boyfriend is pretty well perfect except for one thing. He likes to have sex in public. It began outside a club one night on the hood of a car and has escalated to places you are more likely to get caught in. Now all their sex is public sex. He someday wants to have sex on an airplane and while skydiving. The sex they have at home is usually on the kitchen table or on the balcony. “Janie” has been enjoying her time with her new boyfriend but is beginning to want some regular, boring sex in bed. Mentioning it to him makes him upset.
He is not an exhibitionist. Exhibitionists are turned on by their genitals and sexual activities being viewed by onlookers. Even though the sex is taking place in public areas, it’s still just between “Janie” and her boyfriend. For the majority of folks, just the excitement involved in having sex is enough for them. Others, however, require more. The boyfriend sounds like he likes the thrill involved with the possibility of getting caught.
So what should “Janie” do? Liz says, STOP. Stop having sex in public places. The excitement of maybe getting caught might turn your boyfriend on, but actually getting caught is not worth it. In most states, getting caught having sex in public space comes with a charge of indecent exposure and requires you to register as a sex offender. Plus, “Janie” really doesn’t sound like she is comfortable with the whole thing. You are never obligated to continue sexual activities you are not okay with.
In the bedroom, communication is extremely important. There are different kinds of communication that take place in the bedroom. One of which is talking dirty. Talking dirty is a great way to spice things up. Kara Sutra covers the basics.
When a woman says “harder” in bed, she means just that. Not faster or deeper. Harder. Whatever you are doing, keep doing it, but HARDER. Got it?
When she says go “deeper” this also does not mean faster or harder. Push deeper with the same rhythm as before. “Faster” means FASTER. Not deeper or harder. Just faster. Glad we got that out of the way.
“Faster” means FASTER. Not deeper or harder. Just faster. Glad we got that out of the way.
All Kara wants you to understand is that it is important that you are telling you partner exactly what you want and, in turn, that they are completely understanding you.
Now when it comes to talking dirty, there are some that wonder, what the hell am I actually supposed to be saying? There are basic phrases to incorporate.
“That feels so good”
“I love the way that feels/the way you feel inside me”
“Please do more of that”
Now, these aren’t to be whipped out of nowhere. Kara encourages you to say what you are feeling. If it feels good, tell them how good it feels. If there is something you want them to do, tell them you want it done.
Once you get more comfortable with talking during sex, you can start asking questions.
“Do you like that?”
“Do you like when I do this?”
That then provides an opportunity for your partner to talk as well by answering you. If you are on the receiving end of these questions, don’t respond with a bland yes or no. Get into it! If you absolutely love what they are doing, say that!
When you get more comfortable with talking dirty, you can start incorporating more perverse content and obscenities.
“I love it when you f*ck me like that”
“I love the feeling of your c*ck inside me”
However, unless you have communicated what is okay to say and not say beforehand, take it easy on the name calling. You don’t want to call your partner a name that might shut down the whole evening. Insulting your partner is not the aim of dirty talk. Kara recommends having that talk and drawing the line so that it is not accidentally crossed in the throes of passion.
Dirty talk also happens in the form of “Sexting”. Again, some people have no idea what to say when they receive these texts from their partner. Most of the time they are just afraid of saying something stupid and embarrassing themselves. Kara recommends just playing along. Match their dirty text with one of your own. Say whatever you want to say.
Adina Rivers loves her some booty spanking sex. She wants everyone to share her affection with everyone! She reveals her favorite ways to stimulate that butt during sex. First off, your butt is too tense. Yup, you heard me. Due to the increase of sitting for long periods of time, people’s butts nowadays are in a constant state of clench. Stiff and clenched muscles are not a good thing. You need to be relaxed to have a good orgasm! The following moves will relax the butt and allow for mind blowing sexy times.
First off, your butt is too tense. Yup, you heard me. Due to the increase of sitting for long periods of time, people’s butts nowadays are in a constant state of clench. Stiff and clenched muscles are not a good thing. You need to be relaxed to have a good orgasm! The following moves will relax the butt and allow for mind blowing sexytimes.
The first move is called “The Feather”. Move your fingertips in slow, feather-like movements and caress the booty. Next, in a more deliberate move, push two fingers gently between the middle of her cheeks. Adina calls this “The Acupressure”. Glide your hands along her legs until they are right under her bum. Use your “Feather” fingers. Then squeeze hard and pull the cheek upwards. Release “The Squeeze” and let it bounce back into place.
Next, comes “The Spank”. Using your “Feather” fingers, tease her booty by gliding your fingers up and down over the cheeks. Then surprise her with a quick spank. Use your hands to jiggle her booty back and forth, left to right. Jiggle the each cheek independently. This move, unsurprisingly, is called “The Wiggle”.
Adina swears that the more you move your booty, the better your sex life becomes. So get off your butt and exercise!
If you have kids, you already know. If there is one on the way, this advice is for y0u! These new parents share what they wish they would have known about having sex after kids.
Sex after kids requires planning and coordinating of schedules. It becomes more difficult to jump into the sack whenever the mood strikes. You need some quiet, kid-free time to actually do the deed. In most cases, sex also happens less frequently.
In most cases, sex also happens less frequently. Kids keep you busy! New moms might find themselves dealing with hormone changes and mood swings. This affects the desire to have sex as well as the emotions attached to that. New moms may also feel insecure about their changing bodies and have trouble feeling sexy.
Common advice people get before having a baby is, “sleep as much as you can before the baby comes!”. A footnote in that advice should be, “and also have sex as much as you can before the baby comes!”. When your kids are older and can entertain themselves, sneaking away to another room for a quickie can be fun. If you usually take a long time to finish, figure out as a couple how to get each other off in a short amount of time. You have about 15 minutes before your minions will find you.
When you’re looking for reliable advice about your vehicle, you go to a mechanic right? So, who else should you turn to for sex advice other than someone who does it professionally? In this video, a bevy of beautiful porn stars answer the question, “What position makes you orgasm the most?”
Answer #1: Missionary Position
Porn stars like plain old missionary sex?! Stars – they’re just like us!
So why do they orgasm more easily from missionary sex? It’s all about connection. Eye contact, kissing, holding of the hips and breasts, friction against the clitoris. It’s all good.
Answer #2: ANY AND ALL
I guess these women are porn stars for a reason! If a guy is doing it right, they can come in any position imaginable. One star, in particular, has orgasmed from having her toes sucked and her hip bone licked. Pleasure is a state of mind.
Answer #3: Cowgirl/Reverse Cowgirl
Cowgirl puts the girl in control. She can fuck just the way she likes and hit all the right spots. The clit also gets a lot of stimulation in this position.
Answer #4: Doggy Style
Again, this gives the girl a lot of control. She can flatten to the bed, arch the back or raise a leg to hit those sweet spots.
Answer #5: You do you.
Every penis is different. Every vagina is different. Do what works for you personally or as a couple. Experiment and have fun figuring it out!
Here’s an important safe-sex tip that absolutely everyone should know: YOU ABSOLUTELY CANNOT USE OIL BASED LUBRICANT WITH LATEX CONDOMS.
Okay? I mean never ever. Here’s Why:
Within 1 minute of contact between oil and latex can cause, “90% deterioration in the strength of condoms“. Now, while there isn’t much of an answer in regards to why this happens, we know it definitely, DEFINITELY happens. The best answer that anyone can come up with is that oil weakens the molecular structure of the latex. Again, there isn’t a lot of research on why this reaction occurs. In this video, though, you can see it in action.
Kara Sutra, in her video series Sex 102, decides to answer a viewer question: Can you use oil-based lubricants with latex condoms. To make it clear why that is a very bad idea, Kara performs an experiment. She applies a latex condom to her hand and dips it into a container of baby oil. By just applying the oil, Kara can already see the condom deteriorating. A few pulls are all it takes, and the condom begins to break into pieces. Now, think about the added stress actual sex puts on the condom. Oil lubricant and constant friction – that latex condom is toast.
This is very important sexual education that everyone should know. It would be horrible for anyone making the safe decision to use a condom and have that decision dashed because of the wrong lubrication. Make sure to always use water-based lubes and to carefully read lube packaging to make sure.
Female ejaculation, or as it’s more commonly known, squirting, is when a woman releases fluid during an orgasm. For some people, to be able to squirt is their biggest fantasy and their most powerful orgasm.
Annabelle has 5 tips to help you ride the wave..
#1
GET TURNED ON
The fluid released during a squirting orgasm is liquid that has been absorbed by the urethral sponge. The more turned on a woman is, the more fluid she produces which results in a full sponge. Women also find it easier to squirt if they have already had an orgasm.
#2
FIND THE G-SPOT
Insert 2 fingers into the vagina about 2 knuckles deep and gently hook them upwards. The G-spot is located within the front wall of the vaginal canal.
#3
STIMULATE THE G-SPOT
If you are relatively new to g-spot stimulation, what you are going to feel is similar to a light urge to pee. Ride through it, while either you or your partner keep firm and steady pressure on the g-spot.
#4
STRENGTHEN YOUR PELVIC FLOOR
The stronger your pelvic floor muscles are, the more intense and powerful your orgasms are going to be. Annabelle recommends doing Kegel exercises regularly; clenching and unclenching the pelvic muscles in sets. When you feel yourself about to orgasm, push down hard with your pelvic floor. This will trigger the release of fluid.
#5
DON’T STOP
Because g-spot stimulation simulates the urge to pee, many women stop short of squirting for fear of having an embarrassing accident. This sensation is 100% normal and means that the g-spot stimulation is doing what it’s supposed to. You can completely relax and let yourself go. The urethra seals itself during orgasm. The fluid is actually expelled from small glands on either side of the urethra called the Skene’s glands.
For those who have never squirted before, it may not happen on the first try. Don’t be discouraged. Just like anything, practice makes perfect.
The Think Tank is notorious for poking fun at.. well basically everything. In this video, they are taking a critical look at Cosmo magazine’s 4 worst sex tips ever.
Tip #1
“Take a few of your favorite erotically appealing flavor combinations.. And mix up yummy treats all over his body”
While John seems to think that it’s not so bad, Hannah points out something very important. If you are a hairy guy, be careful what substances she is using to “mix up treats” on your body. Anything too sticky or thick is going to be difficult to remove. Also, licking said substances off a hairy body might feel a bit different than licking them off a smooth body.
Tip #2
“Keep a spray bottle filled with ice water next to the bed.. Aim for the nerve-packed, thin-skinned areas on each other’s body”
Is your partner a cat? Do you have to spray them when they do something you don’t like Don’t forget to pat them on the head and give them a treat when they do something you do enjoy.
Tip #3
“As you’re eating dinner say.. ‘See how I’m devouring this piece of meat? That’s how I’m going to devour you”
Um. Yeah, let’s not. That actually sounds like you are a serial killer. If you want your partner to think you have someone living in a pit in your basement, by all means, say some weird stuff like this.
Tip #4
“Cook dinner topless, apply a little tomato sauce to your nipple, and ask your man to lick it off”
Make sure it doesn’t come right out of the pot and onto your nipple. If blistering skin is your weird sex fetish, go right ahead. You are probably also going to smell like a pizza burp if you keep rubbing sauce all over your body.
I think at some point Cosmo ran out of normal sex tips and started publishing the bat-shit crazy ones that your drunk, inappropriate, overtly sexual Aunt mails in. Have some fun and combine the tips together. Keep a spray bottle of tomato sauce beside the bed and spray it on your partner as you eat a piece of meat. (Please don’t).
Men tend to empower themselves and gain confidence through their sexual prowess. Certain things, like lasting longer in bed, having more erections and ejaculating more, make men feel better about themselves. Here are 7 ways you can empower yourself and your penis.
#1 Physical and Emotional Health
Good health is the foundation of a good penis. If you are unhealthy, your sex drive will severely diminish. In fact, a low sex drive is a symptom of many different illnesses. Cut out processed foods and stick to fresh fruit and vegetables. Drink lots of water and exercise daily. Do breathing exercises to connect your body with your mind. Try to relax. High levels of stress can lead to erectile dysfunction.
#2 Increase the Size and Sensibility of Your Penis
There is a concept that has been used in Eastern cultures for centuries. The men who have tried it claim that they have been able to increase the length and girth of their penises. As you know when blood flow is increased to the penis, an erection occurs. There are 2 chambers on the outer sides of the penis called the corpora cavernosa and 1 in the center on the penis called the corpora spongiosum. The length and girth are decided by the corpora cavernosa. Since erections are just an engorgement of blood in the genitals, by increasing the area to which the blood flows you can increase the size of the penis. There are specific herbs and exercises Adina recommends, both of which are secrets she only reveals during her Penis Magic course.
Massaging the testicles helps to release more testosterone. It will also strengthen your erections, increase seminal fluids and increase your sexual energy. Adina again has secret exercises she won’t reveal but encourages you to experiment with whatever feels comfortable.
#4 Masturbate Less Frequently
Frequent masturbation is notorious for desensitizing the penis. For men over 30, it becomes increasingly difficult to achieve and maintain an erection without the exact sensations provided during masturbation. During masturbation, you tend to have more intense orgasms. This may ruin the experience you share with your partner. Adina recommends masturbating only for stimulation and do not let yourself reach orgasm. This will increase your sexual energy and help to reduce the desensitization.
#5 Increase Your Sexual Power
Ginger helps to increase blood flow throughout the whole body, including the penis. Other interesting herbal supplements are Palmetto, Yohimbe, maca, and ginseng. All of these expand the blood vessels allowing more blood to flow to the corpora cavernosa which can increase penis size. In addition, limit coffee, cigarette and sugar intake.
#6 Increase Your Staying Power
In the bedroom, nothing is more disappointing than not being able to achieve or maintain an erection. Having an orgasm too quickly is also frustrating. If you feel you are coming too quickly, use your left hand and place the index finger and thumb around the base of the shaft. Apply pressure with the index finger on the underside of the penis. With the right hand, use the index finger and thumb to gently squeeze the tip of the penis 36 times.
#7 Make Your Semen Better
To most women, the color, smell, and taste of a man’s semen is important. Semen should be thick and white with a mild odor and taste. But if your semen is gray or yellow, bitter or salty with a foul odor, or clear and watery – these are all signs of ill health. Healthy diet and exercise are key to healthy semen. You can make your semen taste better by eating cinnamon, pineapple or licorice root. Avoid dairy, processed foods and refined sugars. Increase the quantity of your semen by masturbating for stimulation purposes and not reaching orgasm.
In this video, Dr. Doe explains Persistent Genital arousal syndrome. As a professional sex therapist and physician, Dr. Doe helps her clients through various sexual issues. She describes a recent call from a distraught client. She had what felt like an orgasm while she was exercising and it had never come to resolution. The resolution of an orgasm is where sensitivity subsides and the body enters a state of relaxation.
After trips to several other doctors, she was continually diagnosed with Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder with no solution. But how bad can constant arousal actually feel? Dr. Doe provides an example: a quick ice bath may feel invigorating – but constantly being submerged in ice water will hurt! Constant arousal is a bit like a constant ice bath. You just want it to stop. People with this disorder describe the feeling as tortuous. Some have said they would rather rid themselves of their sexual organs than continue dealing with this disorder.
Have you ever felt the urge to sneeze and nothing happens? When you don’t get the release the sneeze provides it is kind of annoying. People with Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder constantly feel right on the verge of orgasming but nothing happens. That is more than just annoying, that’s agonizing.
Symptoms
Feelings of persistent and wanted physical arousal
Throbbing, engorgement, pressure, and discomfort in the genital and surrounding area.
This all happens without sexual desire.
There are varying degrees of irritation.
Restless leg syndrome and the frequent urge to urinate.
Stress and depression.
Causes
Vascular: could be due to blood flow or lack-there-of to the genitals
Neurologic: something to do with the brain.
Pharmacologic: Could be a side-effect of a medication
Hormonal: Might be a reaction to hormonal changes.
Idiopathic: Something completely unrelated to any of the above that is uncertain
With so many possible causes, you can imagine how hard it is to narrow them down to right one.
Treatments
It seems obvious – just have an orgasm, right? WRONG. Sexual contact does not lessen the symptoms. It actually makes them worse.
To start treating this disorder, first, call a gynecologist to make sure what you are feeling is a serious disorder.
After that some treatments include:
Counselling
Local anesthetic
Electroconvulsive therapy
Hypnosis
Change in medication
Surgery
Distraction
Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder has led to many suicides and needs to be taken seriously. If you think this is what you are dealing with, please find a medical professional that who understands the disorder.