Squirt Bible

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to give your woman a pussy massage? This practice helps ladies heal from traumas and negative sexual beliefs that might stem all the way from childhood and be buried deep in their subconscious mind. If done correctly, it brings them to the blissful state they have never experienced before. Is she lucky to have a partner like you? Then, keep on reading.

First and foremost, create a pleasant environment in the bedroom or wherever you decide to sweep her off her feet. Light some candles, scented or not, burn some incense, turn on some music. This not only provides a romantic atmosphere but also it shows that you care deeply.

For this practice, put a towel or a blanket you can wash later on the bed as you are going to get her very wet. She might also ejaculate. Yes, women do ejaculate too; some call it squirting. To find out how you can get her to squirt, check out this post.

Put a pillow underneath her sacrum, and get comfortable yourself by sitting on a set of pillows or a chair if she is lying at the edge of the bed.

Set the space like a pro. You want to give this at least an hour. There is no pressure for her to finish and make sure she is aware of that. You want her to get completely relaxed for you, and let go of any tension and hurt. This can literally make her cry as the immense pleasure you give her prompts her to release negative energies.

Start slow and warm her up. A pro-tip is to go twice as slow as you think you should. You can start my caressing her head and stroking gently all the way down to her privates.

Massage around her vulva, on her inner thighs, over her groin to her hips. Then get your hands well lubricated and massage over her vulva. Check out the video below for a visual demonstration. Do this for around 10 minutes before you insert your fingers into her vagina.

First, make sure she is ready for penetration. You can tell this by how wet she is and if her vagina is pulsing for your fingertips as you lean them against it. With your other hand, do circular strokes over her clitoris if she enjoys it.

Pay attention to her reactions. You can also ask her if you can put your fingers inside her. If it’s a no, you can go back to stroking her entire body, massaging over her vulva. If it’s a yes, slowly slide your fingers inside.

You are going to bring your fingers in and out very slowly. And, with your other hand you are continuing to gently stroke her clitoris and vulva.

Pussy Shiatsu

Next, you can move into a healing experience. The beginner’s technique of this is done with her G-spot. Stroke gently with circular movements, all the while encouraging her to breathe and release. This might spur a healing experience, and you want to encourage her step by step to feel, to express, and to sound. She might climax. But, remember you are never pushing her toward orgasm.

The magic key to this whole massage is that you are fully present with her, moment to moment, no matter what she experiences. You are not pressuring her. You are not expecting anything out of her. Afterwards, you can cuddle her or let her lie in silence, whatever her preference is. Once she is ready to integrate, let her talk about what she has experienced, and if it feels natural for both of you, move into lovemaking.

Have fun experimenting, my friends, and until next time!

In this episode of Lovehoney’s Bondage Gone Wild, Jess Wilde talks about 5 sensory toys for sex play. Nothing extreme, so don’t be intimidated. Some like to be restrained for sensory plays, but it’s not a necessity. Decide what you like, and make sure you communicate your preferences clearly to your partner, so that both of you are on the same page. Note that sensory toys can be used for bondage and vanilla sex, so no matter what tickles your fancy, you might find a good use of the items listed below.

Blindfold

Blindfolds are used as a sensory deprivation tool to enhance your partner’s other senses. For the purpose of this episode, let’s concentrate on the sense of touch. But, if you are interested in giving your partner a complete sensory stimulation, check out this post about an exquisite foreplay.

You can take sensory deprivation further by using earplugs, which would heighten the physical sensations even more. What do we do now that they are at our mercy? Go slow, be gentle, and if the restraints are involved, make sure you two have a safe word in place.

In order to increase the sensitivity of their skin, we have to bring the circulation to the surface. You can do this by caressing, scratching, rubbing, massaging. But, it’s fun to get out of the routine and include toys in your bedroom adventures.

Feather Tickler

If you are new at this kind of play, start with something small like a feather tickler. You can use it to tease and tickle your partner in a sensual manner.

Note that sensory plays give stimulation to the entirety of your partner’s body, instead of just focusing on their genitals. So, if you want to delve deeper into sex play with your partner, why not try it? Experiment and see how it feels for you and how it feels for them, and then talk about it.

Massage Candle

Don’t confuse massage candles with bondage candles, for the latter are designed to provide a little pain, while the former do not hurt. Massage candles melt into a pure warm massage oil. Once it’s melted, drizzle it over your partner’s skin, and you can even follow up with an actual massage!

Pinwheels

These guys might look a bit intimidating, but don’t be put off by their appearance. You roll it over your partner’s skin with no pressure. Its little prickles gently dapple across the skin, which raises the circulation and creates a pleasant sensation. This is the perfect toy to use if the feather tickler is not really doing it for you. But, if you think it looks too scary for your partner, try the product called Cat Scratcher. This one looks like sharp talons, and can also make for a good costume accessory.

Flogger

Yes, flogger is a type of whip, but don’t let this scare you away. You don’t have to use it as a whip only. Its versatility allows you to tickle your partner’s skin, stroke over their body, experiment with light flicks and taps, and if you feel ready to experiment with spanking, this item is perfect for that.

Have fun experimenting, my friends, and until next time!

Amelia McDonell-Parry of Funny Girl Sex Guide talks about the things women want in bed but are too afraid to ask. We’ve lived in a society where women have not really been vocal about sex. I mean, come on, if a sex is on a woman’s mind, she is labeled as a slut, while a man who is actively engaged in the activity, is called a womanizer.

Studies have shown that women are not less physically interested in sex than men. So, let’s just throw our conditioning and stereotypes out the window. As we are stepping into a new era, women are becoming more open and confident to express themselves sexually; but some still remain shy. Communication is the key to help her open up to you and let her naughty show. Let’s check out what tips Amelia has to share about this.

Eat her out more often.

Compliment her vagina so that she knows that you are enjoying the cunnilingus, urging her to relax for you. It’s good to say things like “your pussy tastes so good, I love licking it.” Be enthusiastic. If you care about receiving a good oral, give a good oral.

She wants to be spanked.

A light spanking is good to play with dominant and submissive roles. But first, make sure that’s what she is into. While you’re making out, touch her butt, squeeze it. If she likes you groping her ass, whisper in her ear “can I give you a little spank?” If she says yes, do it once softly and see how she reacts. Then ask again “did you like that?”

Asking her for direction in bed can be very sexy. Say things like “tell me what you want, baby, it turns me on to hear you say it.”

She wants to be dominated.

Domination includes a lot of things, some of which might be of interest to her, and some of which may not. You can never assume that because she likes her ass smacked, she would enjoy being paddled on all fours with a gag in her mouth or something. Trust and communication are essential for both of you to feel comfortable.

Start simple, ask her things like “would you like it if I blindfolded you the next time I go down on you?” If she likes that, next time ask her if you could tie her wrists to the bedpost. And, if she thinks that was awesome, keep trying other stuff.

Make sure you always check in with her verbally, pay attention to her body language and her vocal responses. Also, it’s a good idea to have a safe word, something she could say to have you stop immediately.

Have fun experimenting, my friends, and until next time!

In this episode of BuzzFeedVideo, Dr. Lisa Masterson and Dr. Kia Michel answer the most googled sex questions. Lisa is an obstetrician and gynecologist, while Kia is a urologist.

In case you did not know, obstetrics is the field of study that’s concentrated on pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum period. Gynecology is the study dealing with the health of the female reproductive systems and the breasts. And, urology, also known as genitourinary surgery, is the branch of medicine that focuses on surgical and medical diseases of the male and female urinate-tract system and the male reproductive organs.

Long story short, BuzzFeed invited professionals for this episode, so let’s see what they have to say about Google’s most popular sex questions.

Why is my vagina peeling?

It depends on whether you have the peeling on the outside or inside. It might just be a discharge. But, if your vagina is shedding layers, you definitely want to see your doctor about it. It might also be a sign of diabetes or a reaction to toxic irritants. Go see your doctor if you notice something unusual down there.

Why is my vagina swollen?

Usually, it’s the trauma that causes intense swelling, vigorous penetration or vigorous external rubbing. It could be a Bartholin’s cyst, or Bartholin’s abscess, both of which need to be drained by a doctor. If your vagina or lips are swollen, go see a doctor.

Why is my penis bleeding?

An STD might be the culprit behind it. If blood is coming out of your urethra, then there must be some sort of trauma to the urethra itself. If the urine is bloody, you have to have it checked at the doctor’s office to make sure there is not something more serious happening.

Why is my penis small?

Believe it or not, most men are roughly around the same size, which is about six inches. So, if you feel like you are small, you might actually be very average.

Should I have sex on my period?

If you and your partner are comfortable with it, then go ahead. Period sex could actually be when women have most orgasms, since they are well lubricated and their hormones are let down. Note that you could still get pregnant even on your period; so if you are going to have sex, make sure that you use some form of protection.

For this and more, check out the video below:

YouTube’s famous sexpert and “the Headmistress of Pleasure” as seen in Women’s Health Magazine Layla Martin talks about cervical orgasms. Layla has studied sexuality at Stanford University and in the jungles of Asia with Tantric masters, so her knowledge on the subject is vast and noteworthy. She has been featured on the Huffington Post, CBS, Playboy, etc. Are you convinced already to keep on reading? Alright, let’s talk cervical orgasms now.

Yes, they ARE possible, and yes, EVERY woman can have it. So, don’t worry, if you or your woman is unable to have one right now. Just follow the three easy steps mentioned in this video that help unlock the cervical orgasm potential.

Step #1. Slow Down.
Think of the cervix as the glands of her clitoris, but deep inside her vagina. So, going hard and fast during intercourse to stimulate her cervix is NOT the way to do it. Hard and fast can occasionally feel pleasurable, but note the word – occasionally. It’s important to mix things up.

Step #2. Thrust Properly.
Think of thrusting using your hips with slow circular movements so that the tip of your penis or dildo is making very steady, circular motions right on her cervix. Or, you can do very subtle in and out movements. In this instance, the penetration is like 1/10th of the normal speed. You can even hold your cock or a dildo right up against her cervix while gazing into her eyes. Holding her and allowing her to breathe can do a lot for unlocking the cervical orgasm.

Step #3. Relax, Relax, Relax…
If she has tension in her cervix and it gets bumped during sex, it will feel painful or uncomfortable. For most women to relax her cervix, they have to do the energy clearing. Using sound to let out wild noises, sometimes growl, sometimes sobs and tears from long, long ago. These steps are necessary to release what’s causing the underlying tension, and get to a state of openness and pleasure. Holding your woman through this process and letting her know how okay it is for her to let everything go is super important for this process.

Now that you know how to give your woman a cervical orgasm, go ahead and have fun with it! Until next time, my friends!

Let’s get a little sterile with this post. Nurse Dani of Intermountain Healthcare talks about postpartum sex. When is it okay to have sex again after childbirth? A good rule of thumb is four to six weeks after delivery, since the body is still healing. Wait until she has gone to your doctor so that they can examine her and give her the green light. Listen to the advice of the professionals and be patient.

Another thing to think about is contraception. The doctor will talk about several contraception options for her at the postpartum visit, and it’s very important to be on top of that. You don’t want to get her pregnant right away. Her body needs some time to heal, okay? Researchers have shown that the ideal spacing from the birth of one baby to the birth of the next is two and a half to three years. True, the hormones that support lactation suppress ovulation, but you still need some form of contraception.

Another factor to consider is vaginal dryness. After the delivery of a baby, estrogen levels drop, and this together with the nursing affect natural lubrication. So, the dryness may persist as long as she continues to breastfeed your baby. But, worry not. That’s what lubricants are for. Just make sure the lube you use is phthalate free. For more on that, check out the interview with the sexpert Emily Morse.

Okay, so, suppose the weeks you were supposed to wait have passed, and according to all the research you’ve done and the doctor’s advice, you can start having intercourse. Everyone’s body is different, and it has a lot to do with how the woman feels. It’s totally normal for her to feel exhausted, and not really into it. Both partners should be understanding and respectful of the things the other partner is experiencing.

If during or after the intercourse, she experiences pain or bleeding, urge her to talk to her doctor. Be healthy, be great, my friends! And, until next time.

Do you get home exhausted from work? Drained? Feeling numb and completely turned off? Well, worry not. We’ve got you covered. Layla Martin, one of the renowned sexperts of YouTube, talks foreplay for sensitive sexual experiences. How can we support our partner when the stress of the daily grind takes their mind off your sex life? The trick is to master foreplay – a gateway to the unity of souls.

In this episode, Layla talks about the type of foreplay that is not about pushing us toward sex. It’s about inviting your partner to awaken their five senses, and if lovemaking follows, by all means, enjoy it. Rest assured sex is amazing when you invest this much time in a foreplay. Remove the intention of sex, and take your time. Savor each second of being with your partner, each second of giving them love, and each second of them receiving your love.

First and foremost, make your space sensually beautiful. For this, you will need to get:

• the right lighting
• the right scents
• the right music
• something soft for your partner to lie on.

Have your partner either wear a blindfold or close their eyes, and offer them a total sensual activation. What this means is that you are inviting them to experience each of their five senses in a heightened state of awareness.

Sensual Touch

Start with slow, sensual strokes across their body. You can use tools like feathers or fake furs to gently slide over their skin.

Exotic Scents

Put different essential oils on your body and let your partner smell your neck, your wrist, etc.

Exquisite Taste

Tease them with a delicious assortment of fruits, sweets, whatever your partner loves, and then gently kiss them on the lips.

Electric Sounds

Turn on relaxing music. You can also whisper into their ear, let them know what you love about them, things that you find beautiful, things that you are grateful for, etc.

Sublime Sight

As the last step, remove the blindfold if you used it, or let them open their eyes. At this point you can move in to lovemaking, or the ritual may feel complete. Either way is totally fine. Let your heart take the lead.

You can prep your partner for this by texting them in advance, letting them know exactly what you are going to do to them when they get home. And, make sure you get all the items together:

• a blindfold
• delicious foods
• incense or scented candles
• essential oils
• something tactile such as a feather to awaken their sense of touch.

May you have an epic sex, legendary love, and exquisitely sensitive foreplay!

Do you want to know what are the best ways of talking about bondage with your partner? Chances are the idea of a kinky sex might already be in your partner’s head, but how do you go about bringing up the topic with them? The sexpert Jess Wild of Lovehoney tells us how.

First of all, it’s good to note that the attitudes toward this kind of play are changing as we progress into a more open-minded society. Therefore, nowadays it’s much easier to talk about bondage. There is a good chance you have already explored some kind of tease play in the bedroom without even knowing it.

But, hey… some people might still recoil when you suggest them a kinky sex. The biggest reason for this is a lack of knowledge. If your partner has a consensus notion of bondage involving a dungeon in your basement with whips and chains, then most likely they will turn you down. Another important thing is how you suggest this to them. Your delivery is going to have a massive impact on your partner’s reaction.

Alright! We know what obstacles we might face when trying to bring up the topic of bondage with our partner. Let’s move on to discussing how to overcome these hurdles!

How do you broach this subject? What kind of words should you use?

The key is to swap out the scary words, such as bondage, BDSM, spanking, for softer words. Instead of saying “how would you like to try some bondage?”, why not say “I’ve got a new idea that I think you’d really like to try with me.” Swap out words like “bondage” for “building anticipation.” Avoid jargon like “sensory deprivation or enhancement,” and go with “tickling and teasing.” Don’t forget to make it clear that this is something new for both of you to explore TOGETHER.

Swap out words like “bondage” for “building anticipation.” Avoid jargon like “sensory deprivation or enhancement,” and go with “tickling and teasing.” Don’t forget to make it clear that this is something new for both of you to explore TOGETHER.

If you have used familiar words, chances are they have not recoiled. So, let’s delve deeper. Just make sure you let the idea sink in, and not push it.

Physical play. How do you introduce it?

Jess suggests not using any products at the beginning stages. Use what you’ve got and stick with what you know.

Use what you’ve got and stick with what you know.

For example, you can ask your partner if they know about how other senses are heightened when you are not focusing on the visual, and if they want to keep their eyes closed while you pleasure them. What you are doing is slowly easing them into the play instead of going straight for the blindfold. If you want to make sure they are not looking and not intimidate them, you can lay something over their eyes such as a folded pillowcase. Do not tie anything around their face or head, unless they suggest it.

When you are experimenting with restraints for the first time, you don’t need any products. The best thing you can do is hold their hands or arms in place.

When it comes to “sensory enhancement play” a.k.a. teasing, if you have long hair, you can use it to tickle their body. Use your fingernails to gently scratch over their skin.

After sex, talk about it. Find out what they think about it. Did they enjoy it? Is there anything they want to try differently? They might even suggest bringing a product next time.

At this point, you can explain to them that what you’ve just tried is beginner’s bondage. If you both decide you’d like to try this again, you can start looking into products. You can get quite a lot of interesting items for bondage play from Lovehoney, so feel free to check out their website.

To sum this all up:

1) Don’t use jargon.
2) Keep it simple.
3) Check in, make sure they had a good time.
4) Educate yourselves, read about the subject, check out the products available and begin making plans for the next erotic adventure!

Aaron Marino of alpha m. talks about 6 mistakes men make in the bedroom and how to fix them.

Aaron has around three million subscribers on his YouTube channel and has been giving men advice professionally for over ten years. He has been featured on numerous major networks, such as ABC, NBC, MTV, and many more. His videos have a lot of useful content in addition to being very entertaining. So, let’s get right into the topic at hand.

Six biggest mistakes men make in the bedroom:

1) Not enough foreplay.

Think of sex like driving a manual transmission sports car. You can’t go from first gear to fourth. Take it slow and easy.

2) Quiet like a mouse.

You don’t have to go crazy talking dirty to her, but allowing your throat chakra to express itself won’t hurt you. Just make sure you’ve had a mint.

3) Being too aggressive with the breasts.

Unless she specifically tells you to bite her nipples, gentleness is the way to treat her bosom. Groping does not feel good, but caressing them does. So, be gentle and affectionate.

4) Not being well groomed.

Well, this goes without saying. Trim your pubes, but most importantly, be mindful of your beard. Either approach her with a freshly shaved face or a beard you’ve been growing for over a week.

Stubble is very painful to her skin, which causes irritation and redness. And, you don’t want to be hurting her. So, either shave it regularly or let it grow out, so that it reaches its soft texture.

5) Smelly sack.

Do not spray cologne on your junk. The proper way to eliminate odor is to use a powder. Aaron suggests Chassis Powder as it is made from baking soda and does not lump when in contact with moisture.

6) Thinking what you see in pornography is how it should be.

A lot can be said about this, but Aaron mostly talks about the proper way of putting on a condom.

Open it with your hands, not your mouth, and squeeze the tip to avoid air getting inside the condom before sliding it down your shaft. Make sure you put it on correctly. If you accidentally try to put it on from the wrong end, get rid of that condom, and use a new one.

For more details, check out the video below:

Dan Thomas, a professional personal stylist and image consultant, gives some foreplay tips for men.

The big mistake the guys are prone to make is diving right into the hot spots, such as nipples and the erogenous zones in the nether region. The trick is to stimulate other parts of her body first before you even touch those areas. This way you are teasing her in a good way and building positive sexual tension.

Imagine watching your favorite sports game, when suddenly she takes the remote and fast-forwards toward the end. Won’t this frustrate and annoy you? That’s exactly how it feels when men go straight for the kill, instead of taking time to open her up with a legit foreplay.

A few minutes of foreplay is not going to satisfy most women, so let’s see how we can improve this!

The best way to start a foreplay is by giving her around a ten-minute massage. Rub her neck, back, bottom and legs. You can also use oil or cream to commit to this fully. Have you ever had a massage done at a spa? Go ahead and save up for it, so that you can get a better idea of how amazing it feels. When your partner can do this for you, you can’t help but fall for them deeper and deeper.

After a massage, you can turn her on her back, and start kissing her lips. Let your hands roam all over her body, avoiding her breasts and privates. Then, kiss her neck, her shoulder; lick and nibble on her earlobe. Work your way down her body with your kisses, stimulating her arms, her thighs, all the while staying away from her bosom and core to keep teasing.

Do this for about ten minutes, before you move up for her lips and start touching her private parts. Very soft and gentle at first. Foreplay should be a marathon, not a sprint. Before you get into a penetrative sex, invest your time in oral sex – the last stage of foreplay. Cunnilingus should last for at least 15 minutes minimum, and a foreplay overall should be no shorter than 30 minutes.

Remember gentlemen, women like a variety of speed, rhythm and direction in the beginning, but consistency in the end. When you sense she is close to orgasm, maintain that position and speed until she comes. And, boy oh boy, if you do spend time in prepping her for a mind-blowing sex, you will have a very happy woman by your side.