6 Important Facts about Period Sex

Period Sex: yes, it’s a thing! Put the pain and mess of a woman’s period together with the vim and vigor of sex and you get period sex. Here are 6 facts about period sex you need to know before doing the deed.
 
1. There will be blood
There will not suddenly be a pool of blood you’re having sex in. The blood will only be as heavy as her flow. If you’re having sex on a light flow day, there may not be any blood at all. On heavier days, putting a towel down will prevent messes.
 
2. Your partner can still go down on you
For most women, it’s a lot easier to orgasm via hand or mouth play than penetrative sex. But, of course, she is bleeding down there. A lot of people aren’t comfortable with it, but if you are, keep a towel handy or do it in the shower. You can also use a dam to prevent mess.
 
3. Don’t wear a tampon
Okay, so the tampon goes in the same hole as the penis. Wearing a tampon will either block entry or get pushed too far into the vagina. This can cause painful and difficult removal.
 
4. It can cure cramps!
It can be the last thing on someone’s mind when they are in cramp agony, but it works! Exercise helps with cramps. Sex is a form of exercise and thus helps with muscle contractions.
 
5. You can still get pregnant.
Yes, a woman can still get pregnant while on her period. It’s less likely, but completely possible. Sperm can live inside the vagina for 5-7 days after ejaculation, and they are on a mission. So after the completion of the period, those little buggers can still swim their way towards the egg. If you want to stay baby-free, protect yourself from disease and keep your junk clean, wear a condom.
 
6. Period sex is only gross if you say so.
Even if you’re okay with period sex, your partner may think otherwise. Some may not understand the biology of whats going on down there. For others, it may be the sight of blood that turns them off. Clear, effective communication with your partner is the solution.

Threesomes and Group Sex

 

Group sex and threesomes are not things that happen in porn! Sexual fantasies involving 3 or more people are very common.
 
A threesome or ménage à trois is, of course, sex between 3 people. It can be between any mixture of genders and is the most performed group sex act. This is because often committed couples will invite someone over that they trust. It is also a very common fantasy for men to have sex with 2 women at once. Anything with 3 or more participants is an orgy. Orgies can take place at sex parties, swinger parties or partner switching parties. Group sex dates back to ancient Greece.
 
Group sex is for everyone! Couples in committed relationships engage in group sex because they crave variety. A lot of people view sex as physical; a biological need that does not need to be with only one person. The most important thing to remember when engaging in group sex is to always use protection. Having sex with someone you trust can be nice, but the allure is discovering something new.
 
So if this is something you want to do, how do you bring it up to your partner? Tara recommends being open and honest with your partner. Let your partner know that it’s purely sexual and that it does not take away from how much you love them and desire them sexually. It’s important to be sexually fulfilled so let them know you would be glad to participate in one of their fantasies.
 
The only group sex act Tara has participated in is threesomes. She finds they take a lot of planning, but she highly recommends them and says they are definitely worth trying.

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Gender and Sexuality Explained

There are many types of sexuality. Heterosexuals are attracted to the opposite sex. Homosexuals are attracted to the same sex. Bisexuals are attracted both the opposite and the same sex. There is a wide range of sexualities that a lot of people are not
 
Pansexuals are attracted to all gender and sexual identities. Asexuals don’t feel attracted to anyone but can feel romantic attraction. Romantic attraction does not involve sex. It is the feeling of wanting a close relationship. There are several types of romantic attraction: hetero, homo, bi, pan, and a-romantic.
 
There is more to gender identity than male and female. Being cisgender means identifying as the sex you are born as. Intersex is when a person is born with both male and female sexual organs. These people can choose what gender they want to identify as, or they can identify as neither. When someone identifies as neither male or female, they are non-binary.
 
Those who identify as a different gender than their biological gender are transsexual. Transsexuals have changed their looks and genitalia. Transgendered people have changed their looks only. Neither of these are drag, which is a performance art.
 
If you are not sure how a person identifies, the best thing to do is ask. It’s important to use gender correct pronouns, so if you aren’t sure, use “they” or “them”. If you are having issues figuring out your sexual identity, that’s okay. Find the right support system to aid you through your confusion.
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Fascinating Facts About Orgasms

The human body is amazing, as is the sweet release known as the orgasm. Here are some amazingly fascinating facts about the latter.

You don’t need functioning genitals, or genitals at all, to achieve an orgasm. There is a woman who can orgasm from having someone stroke her eyebrow. No word on whether it’s left or right. Paraplegics develop a sensitive patch of skin right above the level of their injury. Stimulating this patch can produce an orgasm.There is a woman who orgasms every time she brushes her teeth. There is a woman who can think herself to orgasm. Orgasms can cause bad breath. An odor can be detected on a woman’s breath a less than an hour after engaging in intercourse.
 
Orgasms can cure hiccups. A man who had hiccups for days on end had sex with his wife and the hiccups stopped upon orgasm. A published report suggested orgasms as a treatment for chronic hiccups. Doctors used to prescribe orgasms as a fertility treatment. It was once thought that the female orgasm was necessary to become pregnant. They believed it sucked the sperm up into the uterus. Orgasms operate as a fertility treatment for men. Old sperm develops issues that prevent them from swimming. Orgasming often prevents the build up of old sperm.
 
Studying the human orgasm within a lab setting is not an easy task. Scientists developed a plastic penis with a camera at the end to study the female orgasm. In the 40’s a doctor set out to track the speed of ejaculated semen. There was an old theory saying that the speed had bearing on fertility. His findings were inconclusive.

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6 Secrets for an Epic Breast Orgasm

In ancient China, breasts were called “bells of love” and touching these bells could open the heart of a woman to you forever. Breasts were a sacred extension of the heart. In 2011, a scientific study found that a woman’s breasts and nipples are directly connected to her vagina through the nervous system and hormone production. This means that the same part of the brain activated by vaginal stimulation is also activated by breast stimulation and can, therefore, lead to a breast orgasm.

To most women, their breasts are the epitome of their femininity. Show them all your love. They are energy centers and the more you express your love for them the more receptive they will become to your touch. Be open and honest and communicative. Clear communication is extremely important. The more you communicate, the more trust you build. The more your partner trusts you, the more she will be able to relax. The more relaxed she is, the more likely she will be to have an orgasm.

Know how to kiss her! If you want to properly stimulate her breasts, learn how to kiss passionately. The tongue has thousands of sensory nerve endings that are connected to everything – yes even the breasts! A deep, passionate kiss will cause her nipples to erect and stimulate hormone production to the breasts and vagina.

Tease your partner and build tension. Explore the breasts. Touch the sides and undersides. Take your time, go slowly. Explore her body and make your way back to the breasts. Gently brush the nipples and continue exploring.

Lightly squeeze the nipples. Lightly rotate the tip of your tongue in circles around the nipple. Pucker the lips around the nipple and suck gently. Add chilling and warming sensations by inhaling and exhaling long breaths over the nipples. Play with sensation by alternating between the smooth underside of the tongue and the rougher top side of the tongue. In a deep soothing voice, tell your partner to breathe deeply. Intentional breathing will relax her further and allow her to more easily let go. Most importantly – when she is very aroused and on the verge of orgasm, do not make any changed to what you’re doing.

Accept the mystery of the breast. All women are mysterious and beautiful creatures. Because they are all different from one another, breast play for each individual woman will be different. Breast sensitivity changes with a woman’s cycle, so it can change from day to day. Don’t get frustrated if things that worked once don’t work always. Don’t focus on creating the orgasm, focus on the experience and it will be magical for the both of you.

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Male Pleasure How-To

We’ve gone over the basics of female satisfaction, now Laci is back with a simple how-to on male pleasure.

As usual, let’s begin with anatomy. There is a high concentration of nerve endings in the head, or glans, of the penis. Due to unrealistic expectations created by the porn industry, some seem to think you need to shove a penis halfway down your throat to give good head. There are two spots on the head that you need to concern yourself with: the corona and the frenulum. The corona is the raised ridge around the base of the head and the frenulum is a small patch of skin directly under the tip of the head.

If the penis you are dealing with is intact (not circumcised) these parts will be covered in foreskin. The foreskin is a huge pleasure center with about 20,000 nerve endings. Pulling the foreskin down over the head of the penis will produce a very pleasurable sensation. Circumcised penises will be slightly desensitized due to nerve damage caused by the circumcision, which some see as a good thing (lasting longer in bed).

I know what you’re thinking – what about the balls? You probably know that they are a very sensitive body part that should be handled with care. You can lick them, suck them, rub them, use a vibrator on them – all with your partner’s permission of course – to produce pleasurable sensations. Then there is this little patch of skin underneath the balls, just before the anus, called the perineum which is sensitive to pressure and lubricated touch.

Speaking of the anus, that area is filled with pleasure receptors as well! The anus itself has a lot of nerve endings, but inside the anus is the lovely little gland called the prostate. The prostate is involved in producing semen and considered to be the male G-spot. It’s located at the very base of the penis and accessed through the anus. It swells during arousal and can be stimulated with a penis, fingers or toys provided they have a flared based. According to those who have experienced them, prostate orgasms are out of this world.

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The Mystery of the Female Orgasm

Some people just can’t figure this stuff out – so here are some tips on how to help her reach the female orgasm.

First of all, good vibes outside the bedroom equal good vibes inside the bedroom. If there is any stress or conflict in your relationship, that stuff is going to affect her ability to fully relax during sex. Communication is the hottest form of foreplay, use it regularly.

Take your time! Laci recommends paying attention to the entire body (nipples, back, thighs, neck) with a variety of sensations (touching, kissing, oral). Don’t think of everything that comes before penetrative sex as foreplay. Think of the whole experience as sex and be engaged in every part of it.

This is a given, but get to know the female anatomy! There’s this thing called the clit and it’s kind of a big deal. You can access it externally – it looks like a little button and it located at the top of the vagina.  You can also access it internally via the G-spot – 2 inches inside the vagina and push upwards with a “come here” motion. Don’t immediately go for this area though – slow it down and she will be more aroused by the time you get there.

Two words: Gentle and Lubricated. The external clitoris is extremely sensitive. So sensitive that you can actually hurt it if you work it too hard. Make sure you use a lubricant or saliva and use gentle motions (unless your partner tells you otherwise).

To reiterate, communication is key. Ask her what she likes; what feels good. Try some different sensations out and get her to rate them on a pleasure scale from 1 – 10. Keep the conversation going outside the bedroom about what worked, fantasies and what else you’d like to try together.

In porn what you will see a lot of the time is when the female is approaching orgasm, her male partner will speed up whatever action he is doing. This might work for some people, but for the majority, steady and consistent motion is required to achieve orgasm.

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Ask a Polyamorous Person – Your Questions About Polyamory Answered

Curious about what it’s like to be polyamorous? Here are some common questions asked about polyamory answered by actual polyamorous people!

#1. Why isn’t one person enough?
To polyamorous people, having multiple romantic partners is like having multiple friends. It’s not that one person isn’t enough – it’s that there are many interesting and attractive people out there.

#2. What’s the difference between cheating and polyamory?
Polyamory is all about respecting your partner. Everything is consensual, everything is out in the open. It’s not about betraying your partner – cheating is a violation of your relationship.

#3. Are you polyamorous due to your religion?
No – that’s polygamy you’re thinking of!

#4. Does it bother you that people don’t know the difference between polyamory and polygamy?
Yes! Polygamy is a legal term for marrying multiple partners and is often linked to religion. It’s also usually about one man and his submissive, compliant women. With polyamory, everyone is equal and gets a say.

#5. What’s the best tool for making polyamory work?
Communication and honesty. Talk ab0ut what you’re thinking and how you’re feeling. Go forward with love and compassion.

#6. Is non-monogamy normal?
Why isn’t the question is monogamy normal? As one person so astutely pointed out, “You can choose to be monogamous just like you can choose to be vegetarian, but that doesn’t mean the bacon won’t smell good”. It’s okay to be polyamorous as long as you do it honestly and ethically.

#7. How do you deal with jealousy?
Everyone deals with jealousy. Sexual jealousy is not some unconquerable issue. Meet your partner’s potential partners so that you don’t blow things out of proportion in your head.

#8. Does it bother you when people just don’t understand?
It’s best not to dwell on what others think.

#9. Do you have any advice for young polyamorous people?
Be absolutely honest no matter what. Don’t pretend you’re cool with things that you aren’t cool with just because your partner is. Reach out to different resources, do your research and get educated. Don’t assume you’ve got everything right. Figure out who you are and stick with it – don’t try to change yourself or anyone else.

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Pre-Cum 101 with Shan Boody – What, Where, Why?

Ever wonder why every reliable form of birth-control method is only 97%-99% effective? It’s all about those rascally devils we call sperm. When men ejaculate, they release between 40 million – 1.2 billion sperm, and each of these sperms has one mission. That’s a lot of soldiers and we just don’t have an army sufficient enough to stop them. Shan compares sperm to sand – that sh*t gets everywhere. They can also live inside the vaginal canal or male urethra for 5-7 days. Though it’s hard to be 100% safe, you can increase your safety.
 
As Shan explains, urine is very acidic, and as it passes through the urethra it makes the urethra a very acidic environment. Sperm and acid do not mix. When a man is aroused, the body produces an jelly-like substance to neutralize the urethra. Some produce enough of this substance for it to present itself at the tip of the penis, others do not. This substance does not contain any sperm itself. When it is flushed through the urethra it can pick up sperm left over from previous ejaculations.
 
Shan has some advice for you if you’re using the pull-out method. Urinate before sex to flush out any sperm that might be hanging out in the urethra. Urinate after sex for the same purpose. The pull-out method should always be used in tandem with another form of birth-control. The pull-out method provides absolutely no protection against STD’s. If you use the pull-out method, make sure you discuss the possibility of pregnancy.

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10 Benefits of Orgasms

Orgasms are useful for more than just pleasure. Sexologist, Shan Boodram, knows all about the health benefits of The Big O. Here are 10 things you might not know:

Upon the moment of orgasm, your body begins producing a number of different hormones. DHEA (Dehydroepiandrosterone)  is produced which makes your hair grow longer and gives your skin more elasticity. HGH (Human Growth Hormone) is produced which helps you stay younger physically – you will look and feel better for longer. Orgasms give you a healthy and unmistakable glow. If your orgasm is partner induced, oxytocin, or the cuddle hormone, is produced. This hormone strengthens the bond between people and fortifies relationships.

Orgasms help strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. This helps as you get older – you will be less likely to develop issues with bladder control. People who have strong pelvic muscles have stronger orgasms. The more orgasms you have, the better they gradually become.

An orgasm is also a great cure for an illness. You will be sweating and therefore releasing toxins. Orgasms also force the production of immunoglobulin which helps you fight bacteria and infection. If you’re in need of a good night’s sleep, orgasms stimulate the production of prolactin which aids in falling asleep and staying asleep.

A recent study concluded that the chemical composition of people’s brains directly after administering heroin and directly after an orgasm is 95% the same. That’s because an orgasm stimulates the production of a large amount of dopamine.

Shan is inviting you to participate in the 7 Day Orgasm Challenge. Have an orgasm every day for 7 days in the name of health!

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