Squirt Bible

There’s a lot of mystery that surrounds squirting for both men and women. All too often, people believe that squirting is something left to adult films, and it’s not really something achievable in reality and a real-bedroom sex life. The truth couldn’t be further from this, and the truth of the matter is that when asking “Can all women squirt when the orgasm?” the answer is a resounding yes. While real-life squirting is going to be somewhat less dramatic than what you may have seen in adult films, it’s a very real thing and there’s science to back it up. 

It All Starts In The G Spot 

Women have two distinct separate orgasm centers – the clitoris and the G spot. The clitoris is where most orgasms come from, and located on the outside of the body, it’s the easier orgasm center to find. Many women believe that they can only orgasm from the clitoris, but this isn’t actually the case. The G spot is quite a bit more difficult to locate, being inside the body, but this is an erogenous zone well worth seeking out. 

When the clitoris is stimulated, a woman may experience a strong and satisfying orgasm, but it won’t be a squirting orgasm with clitoral stimulation alone. When the G spot is stimulated, however, the orgasm is much different and many find it’s far more powerful. It’s from the G spot that a woman will experience those entire body quaking and earth shattering orgasms, those of which can come along with the potential to squirt. 

According to scientists, who believe they have finally got to the bottom of the female squirting orgasm, the fluid comes from the Skene Gland. Located by the urethra, the Skene Gland is thought to fill with fluid when the G spot is properly stimulated to climax, and it’s this fluid that is then released upon a G spot orgasm. This fluid release isn’t going to produce waves of ejaculate across the room, like what is often seen in adult films, but just a tablespoon or so of fluid that comes from the body with some force. 

Locating The G Spot 

In order to bring on a squirting orgasm, the G spot must first be located. If you have your partner lie on their back and insert a finger into the vagina with your palm up, you should be able to feel the G spot around 2 inches inside. It’s located on the anterior wall of the vagina, and it should feel a bit like a squishy or spongy area around the size and shape of a walnut. This region can be stroked or massaged, stimulated in varying speeds, and touched with different levels of friction – every woman will have different preferences when it comes to G spot stimulation. With open communication and a relaxing environment, any woman has the potential to have a sex life changing G spot orgasm. 

As she reaches closer and closer to climax, she might start to feel some pressure down there that resembles the urge to urinate. This could lead her to telling you to stop the stimulation, and it can pull her out of her orgasm space. It’s important to know that this is completely normal, and it’s actually a sign that there is a squirting orgasm on the horizon. Rather than holding back when this sensation occurs, she should be encouraged to release the pressure and go with the feeling, as it will release the fluid in the Skene Gland through the urethra and bring about a squirting orgasm. 

Halloween is in the air, so let’s stick to the theme for today’s post. Are you willing to try some new positions this Halloween? Why the hell not. Go a little wild with your loved one. Set the scene. Decorate your house or your bedroom. Light some incense or scented candles. Dress up in costumes and have fun with your imagination! Once you have digested a good meal and are ready for the naughty, check out this list:

Man’s-best-friend aka Doggy Style

This is when a woman is on all fours, and the man penetrates her from behind. It allows the man to really control the angle and the speed, while the view of her naked back and the rear end is sure to create added stimulation.

Pole-Position

In this one, the man lies on his back and bends one of his legs. The woman straddles his raised leg and lowers herself on his cock. She can then use his leg as a support as she rocks up and down.

Reverse-Cowgirl

The man lies on his back on the bed with his legs hanging over the edge. The woman straddles him, facing away from him, then leans forward and rests her hands on his knees or thighs. Imagine it as a cross between doggy-style and the woman-on-top position.

Spin-Cycle

Oooh, now this one is fun, done in the laundry room. She can either lean over the washing machine and he enters her from behind, or both get perched atop it. The thing about this position is that when the spin cycle is on, it creates vibrations that both of you can enjoy.

Spoon

This is one of the easiest sex positions since both of you are lying on your sides with no one’s weight on them. The man is lying behind the woman as he enters her from behind. And, hey, this position is not limited to two people. He too might be getting some rear end stimulation while he is pleasuring his woman, so… keep your mind open, my friends.

Stand and Deliver

In this one, the man is standing while the woman is pressed against the wall or something similar for leverage. If he is holding her up, he needs to make sure his stamina is up to par. If he can pull this one off, boy, oh boy, she’ll surely be wet at the mental image of it the next day.

Crouching-Dragon aka Standing Tiger

The woman is on all fours on the bed, while the man stands behind her on the floor. It’s very similar to the doggy style, but in this one the man is standing, giving him more control as he thrusts away.

For these and more, check out the video below.

Keep experimenting, my friends, and until next time!

In this episode of CosmoLive, sexpert Ericka Hart gives us top 5 oral sex tips. As you might already know, Cosmopolitan is an international fashion magazine, famous for the latest sex tips, celebrity news, dating, relationship help, and things of that nature.

Tip #1

You can practice oral sex on a female body using the palm of your hand. Some people like soft tongue, so you can lay your tongue soft against your palm and lick. While others like hard tongue better, in which case you point with your tongue and lick your palm. Basically what you are doing is experimenting with the pressure of your tongue, and the way you are licking. Just make sure you have washed your hands with soap first so that you are not licking off any bacteria. Note that it’s different for everyone, so you just have to ask the person what they like.

Tip #2

When it comes to oral sex on men, the shaft is definitely something to concentrate on, but the head of the penis is where most of the sensitive nerves are hidden. Be sure to focus on the head of the penis when you are giving head. There’s so much more you can do during a blowjob, which Ericka does not mention in this video. Some men like it when you gently cup their balls, while sucking. But, that calls for a whole new post, so for now let’s focus on Cosmopolitan’s advice.

Tip #3

One thing to include, that a lot of people tend to forget, is lube. Yes, saliva is great, but body-safe lubricants, that are preferably not purchased at the drug store (because those kinds mostly contain ingredients that are harmful and can cause infections), are way better. Just do your research and figure out which lube would work best for you; water-based, silicone… Ericka suggests getting lubes at Babeland, and you can also get them online at places such as adamandeve.com. To get the discount code for the online store, check out Dr. Doe giving tips on how to put a condom on an intact penis.

Tip #4

You do not have to swallow if you do not want to. It is totally up to you. What you can do is store the cum in your mouth and then rinse your mouth in the bathroom. Some people don’t like swallowing because they don’t like the taste, so for that you can brush your teeth or put some toothpaste on your tongue. You can also drink a little bit of flavored liquor afterwards, which is sure to take the taste away.

Tip #5

You might hurt your jaw when giving a blowjob, if you don’t know what you’re doing. But, the chances of your jaw locking are very slim, unless you have a TMJ disorder, or something like that. As you get more experienced with blowjobs, you’ll find positions that work better for your jaw. When asked of the best jaw-friendly positions, Ericka gives us a visual demonstration with a pencil and her hands, so check out the video below.

Have fun experimenting, my friends, and until next time!

Adina Rivers of MyTinySecrets talks about sex tips for the best orgasm ever. Adina’s #1 secret for a mind-blowing orgasm is edging, and in case you are left wondering, let us elaborate. Edging is a sexual technique where you maintain a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period of time without reaching climax. Other words for it are orgasm control, peaking, and surfing. Edging is something everybody can do, so get off your sorry ass and stop looking for excuses.

The great thing about edging is that it charges your entire being with intense sexual energy. It’s like a prolonged orgasm that keeps on going throughout your whole body and does not last. Mastering the art of edging can help guys last longer; and the longer you last, the more chances of her climaxing for sure. And, trust me, gentlemen, you DO want ladies to come before if not together with you. Never leave a lady hanging. But, back to edging, which when done correctly, can feel like floating in the universe.

Adina shares with us how she does edging, but note that we are all different, so some might need a different approach. Use this method as a basic guideline to build and improvise from.

Step #1

Relax yourself, and create a relaxing environment for the two of you (or more, if you’re into that sorta thing). Take it slow. Allow things to progress naturally. Gently caress your partner all over their body.

Step #2

Let the arousal build up. At the high peak of arousal, gently stop the stimulation to avoid climaxing. Switch to another body part. Breathe slowly and deeply. Move the sexual energy up with hands. The pause allows the energy to expand.

Step #3

Once you have cooled down, begin again. Go back to stimulating yourself and edge 3-4 more times. Let totally loose when you finally orgasm.

Step #4

After the orgasm, go into stillness. Feel and enjoy the sensations in your body. Meditate with this sexual energy.

You can practice this with your partner or by yourself. Just remember to have fun!

Keep experimenting, my friends, and until next time!

In this episode of Sexplanations the clinical sexologist Lindsey Doe talks about how to put a condom on an intact penis.

Step #1

Make sure the condom isn’t all banged up, compromised, or expired. Check the package for holes or tears. Read the expiration date correctly, usually year first and then month. Keep it out of harm’s way until you are ready to use it.

You can get a nifty case where you can store your condoms, and put it inside your purse. Or, you can improvise a little, and make a case for condoms out of a cotton swamp container, for example. Do not put your condoms in your wallet or back pocket, where they can get smashed and damaged.

Step #2

Now that you are ready to use one, pull the condom out of the way and tear the package gently. You don’t want to break the condom while opening the package, or cause it to fall out. Once it’s open, carefully remove the condom. This is when we move onto the most challenging part. Which way does it roll?

Step #3

Don’t worry. We have all messed it up at one point. There’s a 50% chance of getting it wrong if you don’t know what you’re doing here. If the condom looks like a beanie, then you’re good. If the ring is flipped up inside, not good. Another way to make sure it’s correct is to test it on your thumb. DO NOT test it on your cock, because if you accidentally try to put it on from the wrong end, that condom will no longer be usable.

If it unrolls smoothly on your thumb, that’s the right way. If it catches and stretches, that’s the wrong way. Turn it over. If the condom is going on a penis, it’s important to leave room at the tip for the semen to pool. Hold the tip closed so that it does not fill with air as you slowly slide it down the phallus. Roll the condom halfway down, then grip the penis like you would for a hand job and slide upwards so that the foreskin moves back over the top. Make sure you roll the rest of the condom down.

All in all, practice different techniques and try various condoms to see which feels the best for you. You can get condoms from clinics, gas stations, grocery stores, but Dr. Doe recommends ordering them from AdamandEve.com. And, that is because:

1. They have a huge assortment of condoms: textured, flavored, colored, etc.
2. They have sample packs so that you can find what’s best for you without committing to a whole box.
3. They’re half the price, when you use the discount code provided in the video below.

Keep experimenting, my friends, and until next time!

In this episode of Ask A Porn Star we get anal sex tips from Amarna Miller, Piper Perri, Mick Blue, Leya Falcon, Charlotte Sartre, Lily Lane, Kiki Daire, Jasmine Webb, Aubrey Sinclair, Cherie DeVille, Abella Danger, Jessie Lynne, Bella Doll, Harmony Cage, and Brooklyn Chase.

Communication

Openly communicate with your partner. Before you try anything, make sure your partner is up for it. Anal sex is not something that you can surprise your partner with. If you don’t prep for it in advance, it’s going to be very painful. And, you don’t want to hurt your partner and make them be wary of sleeping with you the next time. Remember, consent is everything. So, discuss with your partner that you want to try anal sex, and if you are both game, take it slow and explore together.

Preparation

A good way to prepare for anal sex is by using anal plugs to stretch your buttonhole days before. You can start with smaller ones at first, and slowly work your way up to bigger anal plugs. What you can also do is play with your anus while you masturbate, so that you can associate anal stimulation with pleasure. Don’t put a dick or dildo right in there. It’s important to warm it up and stretch it slowly.

Cleansing

Have a fiber-rich diet, so that your bowels easily clean out. Some recommend doing an enema before dabbling in anal sex. Now, this post is not about the proper ways of doing an enema, so research more into it. The point is to clear out your bowels before anal sex, so that you don’t accidentally soil your bed or wherever you are doing the naughty. Yes, sometimes stool does come out during anal sex, so you’ve got to be careful.

Lubrication

Some recommend lube, while others suggest a lot of spit. Whatever you do decide to use, make sure that the thing you are inserting in your butt is well lubricated. Anus does not naturally lubricate itself like vagina does, so you have to keep reapplying lubrication on your penis or whatever object you are putting in there.

Relaxation

The person has to be relaxed and turned on by it; otherwise they are not going to enjoy anal sex. One of the ways you can help them relax is take things real slow, and start with fingers or your tongue, before you proceed with things of bigger girth. Urge them to take a deep breath and relax, and make sure whatever you are doing is pleasurable and not painful.

Give Love

Most importantly, don’t treat anus as something that needs to be rammed. Massage it at first, wait for it to stretch, give it love, like you would give love to any other body part of your partner. What makes anal sex pleasurable is going slow at first and gently easing into it.

Keep experimenting, my friends, and until next time!

YouTube’s famous sexpert and “the Headmistress of Pleasure”, as seen in Women’s Health Magazine, Layla Martin talks about 6 unforgettably electric kissing moves. Layla has studied sexuality at Stanford University as well as in Asia with Tantric masters, and has been featured on the Huffington Post, CBS, Playboy, etc.

First of all, let’s do a quick rundown of what not to do when locking lips with your partner.

• Avoid kissing them too hard, too aggressively or too stiffly.
• Do not shove your tongue down their throat, meaning, be moderate with your tongue use.
• Too little tongue can also be annoying. Make sure you’ve had a mint beforehand, though.
• A kiss that is too rushed takes sensuality out of the act, and kills the mood.

Now that we’ve covered what not to do, let’s get into the useful tips for electric kissing.

Tip #1 Make The Kiss The Destination

Instead of kissing being a means to an end, or a way of getting your partner into something more intense, let the kiss be the only thing happening. That way you are in the moment with it, and fully present.

Tip #2 Develop Lip and Tongue Sensitivity

If you bring total awareness to all the sensations on your lips and your tongue, you can really expand the sensitivity there. And, the more open and sensitive you are to the sensations, the more you’ll enjoy it.

Tip #3 Build a Rhythm

Notice a wave of energy that is starting to form between the two of you. Let your lips and your tongues move together in accordance with each other. Let them dance together in harmonious rhythm, as though your mouths are making love with one another.

Tip #4 Use Your Hands

Let your hands slide through your partner’s hair, over their neck, shoulders, back, wherever it feels natural. Let your hands be passionate, firm, and confident. Don’t let them flop around or meander. Really be as much in your hands as you are in your kiss.

Tip #5 Slow Down

Slowing down helps you and your partner drop into the moment. On top of sensitizing the kiss, it gives time for the chemistry and the emotion between you two to be built and felt.

Tip #6 Put on an Amazing Track

You can use music, either a track or a playlist, to put you in the right mood. If you learn to use music, you can actually make out to its rhythm, and go on a journey together that transports you through time and space.

Keep experimenting, my friends, and until next time!

In this episode of Sexplanations, Dr. Lindsey Doe talks about how to touch a boob, whether it’s you pleasuring yourself or pleasuring your partner.

Before we get into the dos and don’ts of breast-fondling, note that touching breasts stimulates the release of oxytocin, the so-called love hormone that facilitates pair-bonding. It decreases stress, pain, and depression, while increasing pleasure. According to the researchers at UC Berkeley and the Lawrence Berkeley National Laboratory, touching breasts can fight breast cancer. Neat, eh? Now that we have covered the benefits of breast-fondling, let’s get into how to do it like a pro.

First and foremost, ask for permission. Saying things like “Can I touch you here?”, “Can I touch your top?”, “Can I touch your tits?”. If the person says no, do not under any circumstances touch their breast, because consent is mandatory! If the person says yes, then proceed with clothes on first. Touching their breasts through a fabric of clothing is very sensual. You want to build up to it and go slow.

Now, if the clothes have already come off, make sure your hands are soft. If they are not, put on lotion or satin-like gloves. Come up from behind or the side, and move from the waist or neck sensually to the breasts. Going straight for the boobs might make the person feel like their chest is being honked. And, going too quickly might feel like you are clobbering them. Let me reiterate this important part to all foreplay – SLOW DOWN.

As you are exploring their breasts, move your hands around their breasts with light and deep strokes. Let your fingers delicately circle the areolae, spiraling closer and closer to the nipples. There’s also tugging, stretching, holding, patting, kneading, and tickling you can do, as long as you start gently to gauge how it feels for them.

If there’s more than one breast, treat them equally, unless they don’t want you to touch one of their boobs. Also, what they have enjoyed in the past might be something they might not like now. Some breasts change a lot as hormones fluctuate. One week it might feel pleasurable for them to hold their breasts firmly, while the next week it might be extremely painful. One solution to this is to learn the person’s cycle; another is to ask in the moment whether or not they like what you’re doing, and as the third option you can reset your approach each time you go to touch boobs.

Dos

• Compliment their breasts while you’re touching them.
• Try a variety of sensations, like feathers, ice, wax, oil, silk…
• Give breasts focused attention.
• Do breast bondage if everyone’s into it.
• Suckle, kiss, lick, grope, nuzzle.
• Do motorboat, if you feel like fooling around with them.
• Titty-fuck, if it’s consensual, of course.

Don’ts

• Don’t bite unless you are instructed to.
• Don’t cover their boobs with whipped cream or sticky syrup of any kind unless you plan to thoroughly clean it all off.
• Don’t touch their breasts so much that they become raw.
• Don’t aggressively speed bag anyone’s boobs.

Trauma to the breasts from too much pressure on them can lead to fat necrosis, or scarring of the damaged tissue; so proceed with gentleness and mindfulness.

Have fun experimenting, my friends, and until next time!

Michael Fiore and Cassidy Lyon of Digital Romance TV talk about how you can spice things up in your relationship and keep your partner interested in you until you sleep together. This might apply to those who do not wish to roll under the sheets on their first few dates, or those who are in a long-distance relationship.

For starters, let’s establish that mental stimulation has a lot to do with sex. So, what can you do to entice your partner and keep them interested in you? Dirty texting, teasing them with a skillful use of words. But, how do you really go about it? What are the things to write them to get their fire going?

Saying things like, “I can’t stop thinking about your…”, “I can’t wait to…”. Tell them the things you want to do to them and the things you want them to do to you. Be honest and open about your dirty thoughts. You don’t want to come off too intense, so make sure you ease into this slowly, and see how they respond. If they are engaging in your play, you can start amping it up a little.

You can also write little letters, e-mails, tease each other with photos or small videos. Snapchat is perfect for that. You want to build yourself up to it. It’s not really attractive for people when you throw yourself at them, unless you both are simply looking for a quick lay.

It’s about being coy to a certain degree… approaching this with innocent flirtatiousness and yet knowing what you are doing at all times. For tips and tricks on sexting, check out Adina Rivers’ video.

Have fun experimenting, my friends, and until next time!

Jess Wilde of Bondage Gone Wilde at Lovehoney talks about top 10 bondage mistakes, and how to fix them.

#1 Surprises

While surprises might be fun in life, they aren’t for bondage play. It’s always important to talk to your partner beforehand so that both of you know exactly what you are going to try together and how far you can go. Surprising your partner with a spank or a kinky move you have not discussed with them prior to the play might cause them to lose trust in you. And, that is the worst thing you can do when it comes to BDSM. Consent is mandatory in everything you do, so communicating with your partner and setting ground rules must never be skipped.

#2 Research

If you want to get involved in bondage play with your partner, be sure to do a lot of research about it. Do not avoid reading about sex and learning more about it. Study the subject and do not aimlessly try out something in the process. Experimenting without knowledge to back it up for you might ruin the moment or hurt your partner. And, even though some might enjoy slight pain during sex. Remember, bondage is NOT about hurting your partner. Bondage is a fun play that is equally enjoyed by both the dominant and the submissive person.

#3 Safe Word

Do not forget to set up a safe word. The safe word is the word you and your partner agree to use when you want the play to stop immediately, and by immediately, I mean IMMEDIATELY.

#4 Using Your Safe Word

Some subs are guilty of not using their safe word. Fun bondage play is all about trust, so it’s your responsibility to use that word if you need it. If you wait until the play is over and then let your partner know that you did not enjoy the process, they might feel horrible and be apprehensive of trying this with you again in the future. So, be sure not to feel shy about using the safe word when something does not feel right for you and you want the play to stop.

#5 Ignoring Pain

A lot of newbies to bondage think that bondage means it should be painful, but that’s not the case. Pain is your body’s way of telling you that something is not quite right, and you need to listen to it. BDSM should be a fun experience for you, not an unpleasant one. Don’t push through. Not letting your partner know if something is painful in real time is not fair on either one of you.

#6 Control

A lot of people think that it’s the dom that is in control, but in actuality, it is the sub that determines how far things can go and when to stop. Yes, the dominant one performs the whats and whens of the play, but the submissive person is the one in charge.

#7 Adding Toys

Do not add something new to the play without talking about it first. It can never be stressed enough how important it is to communicate when it comes to bondage. Fun BDSM relies entirely on trust, and when you add something new without prior discussion, it can be a real shock for your partner and break their trust.

#8 Not Talking

With BDSM there is more talking involved than with any vanilla play. It’s more important than ever that you guys check in with each other throughout the play, especially the dominant partner. They need to make sure that the sub is enjoying themselves and all is A-okay.

#9 Talking After

Speaking afterwards is just as important as speaking during the act. Reflecting on the experience you shared together strengthens your bond and solidifies your relationship. It also gives you an opportunity to talk about the things you might want to drop and the things you might want to try next time.

#10 Have A Laugh

Don’t take this too seriously. Sex, including BDSM, should be fun. Explore, and don’t be afraid to laugh together. This should be something fun that you both enjoy. And, as we all know, laughter is good for the soul. It releases endorphins, which are peptides in the brain that act as natural pain and stress fighters.

Keep experimenting, my friends, and until next time!