Dr. Doe is here again to clearly and concisely explain the do’s and don’t’s of cunnilingus.
The word cunnilingus is derived from two Latin words. Cunnus, for vulva and lingua, for tongue or licking. Dr. Doe’s first don’t – DON’T BITE. Let your tongue do what your hands would do. (Some people like teeth, but that has to be negotiated. Do not surprise someone by biting them).
Do: prep the mouth and vulva. Vulva prep involves getting tested for STI’s, cleaning yourself and shaving. Mouth prep involves checking for cold sores or chapped lips, brushing your teeth and rinsing your mouth.
Do: protect yourself. Infections, like herpes, yeast, gonorrhea, HPV, and syphilis can be passed from mouth to vulva and vice versa. Dams are a great way to prevent the transfer of diseases.
If you are going to go shieldless, do a taste test. Taste or smell before fully committing. Don’t assume no one is going to like your taste or smell.
Do: moisturize. It’s going to be most pleasurable if both the tongue and the surface it touches are both moist and slippery. Don’t spit or slobber. There is such a thing as “too wet” and it’s unpleasant.
Do: breathe. Don’t: blow into the vagina.
Do: teach each other things. Don’t: assume you know everything about someone else’s pleasure. Use your words, communicate and ask questions.
Don’t: bombard the clit. It’s not about finding the magic spot and rubbing it into submission. The clit is very sensitive and can become sore if manipulated too much. Do: use your hands. massage, caress, wander to the back, breasts, thighs, face, butt. Don’t punch, slap, poke, or pinch.
Don’t be insistent on penetration. The Big O can be achieved without entering the vagina.
Do: try new positions. Don’t: let gravity bring anal fluid into the vulva.
Do: involve other erogenous areas (with permission). Treat cunnilingus as its own sexual act. Don’t: use it as a means to penetrative sex. Sometimes it’s nice for cunnilingus to be the star of the show.
Do: communicate what feels good and how you want to be touched. Don’t be afraid to tell your partner what you like and don’t like.
Enjoy yourself but don’t expect an orgasm. Rest if you need to and don’t tire yourself out.
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